BPH
Master Don Juan
Kinda bored and got to thinking, so this might be a long read. Anybody that makes it through and offers their opinion, know that I sincerely appreciate your time.
For context, I'm 26, almost 27 years old and I've been with ~68 women. I don't post this to brag or anything but because I'm asking for advice on specifically being successful as a man*****, I'd prefer the people giving me this advice to have been around the block MORE rather than LESS compared to myself.
I think I'm writing this because last Thursday and the Wednesday before I slept with 2 different, very attractive women - especially last week. Both girls I met off tinder but this girl was really my type physically; big tits, thin, blonde, slutty and didn't play games when I met up with her. We f***ed twice, I spent the night, talked and got to know each other a good bit, and kept in contact for another day or so after that with tentative plans for me to see her again soon. This week I contacted her a few times with no response, so I'm pretty sure I'm getting ghosted. Tomorrow I plan to hit her up on Instagram and just plainly ask her why, not upset or anything, just kinda wondering why that's happening if we had the good time I thought we had. I know many of you will probably advise against that...but I don't really care if that's actually the case, if I'm not going to sleep with her again I'd just like to know what went wrong between then and now.
So this lead me to think...I get around a good bit, but I genuinely like the women I sleep with - most of the time if we stop seeing each other it's the girl's decision or inability to deal with the fact that I'm not looking for anything serious. If I f*** somebody once, usually I would like to continue f***ing them. But in the same vane I'm wondering if there's anything different I should be doing to try to maintain these relationships beyond just one lay, or maybe to get myself out there so I can meet someone new faster, since when these relationships end I'll sometimes go through little dry spells that I'd rather not experience.
Just a little background on myself here as well...I mentioned my age above, I'm 6ft tall, around 194lbs. and around 9% body fat. People's tastes vary but I'm a good enough looking guy that I had a modeling contract with BMG in NY (though no work came from them, so take that as you will) and currently have a talent manager who signed me on that operates in DC...so appearance-wise I'm fine. I'm a licensed real estate agent, though I'm newer at that so it's been a struggle getting that going, and I work part-time at a medical marijuana clinic for my income - point here being that while I'm happy with myself overall, I'm not in a good financial situation and do currently live with my parents. I also live in Delaware, AKA the drive-thru state. My plan is to save money to be able to make a more permanent move to somewhere warmer and more fun while I'm still young enough to enjoy it; maybe California, Florida, or Arizona, heard good things about the weather, nightlife, and women in all three.
In terms of women I maintain a pretty high standard...I don't f*** just for the sake of it, I'm very much attracted to whoever I'm with. COVID made things a lot more difficult because in addition to living in Delaware, now I cannot go up and meet women at the bar, which is the only real place for me to run into people in my age bracket on a day-to-day basis here, and was something I was very good at. So I've largely resorted to Tinder, and that's very hit or miss in and of itself. My success on there has been very minimal, although the last 3 women I've been with have been from that app; Bumble and Hinge thus far haven't paid off with a damn thing.
All of this aside, we come to the part where I want to ask you, the reader, my question...
Guys who are sleeping with attractive women regularly, guys who have a friends with benefits relationship with these women, and guys who enjoy doing this kind of thing as opposed to looking for relationships or delving too deep into "PUA tactics" I ask you this:
What do you do, and what do you suggest I do?
Please do not try to dissuade me and tell me "this isn't the way". I know myself, and I've been like this for quite some time once I started to see success with women. I just want to know from people who are my better in this respect, how do I get better?
Thanks to everybody who read this, I'm looking forward to reading any replies I get. Sorry if this was a bit scatterbrained or long-winded, I've just been in a thinking mood lately.
For context, I'm 26, almost 27 years old and I've been with ~68 women. I don't post this to brag or anything but because I'm asking for advice on specifically being successful as a man*****, I'd prefer the people giving me this advice to have been around the block MORE rather than LESS compared to myself.
I think I'm writing this because last Thursday and the Wednesday before I slept with 2 different, very attractive women - especially last week. Both girls I met off tinder but this girl was really my type physically; big tits, thin, blonde, slutty and didn't play games when I met up with her. We f***ed twice, I spent the night, talked and got to know each other a good bit, and kept in contact for another day or so after that with tentative plans for me to see her again soon. This week I contacted her a few times with no response, so I'm pretty sure I'm getting ghosted. Tomorrow I plan to hit her up on Instagram and just plainly ask her why, not upset or anything, just kinda wondering why that's happening if we had the good time I thought we had. I know many of you will probably advise against that...but I don't really care if that's actually the case, if I'm not going to sleep with her again I'd just like to know what went wrong between then and now.
So this lead me to think...I get around a good bit, but I genuinely like the women I sleep with - most of the time if we stop seeing each other it's the girl's decision or inability to deal with the fact that I'm not looking for anything serious. If I f*** somebody once, usually I would like to continue f***ing them. But in the same vane I'm wondering if there's anything different I should be doing to try to maintain these relationships beyond just one lay, or maybe to get myself out there so I can meet someone new faster, since when these relationships end I'll sometimes go through little dry spells that I'd rather not experience.
Just a little background on myself here as well...I mentioned my age above, I'm 6ft tall, around 194lbs. and around 9% body fat. People's tastes vary but I'm a good enough looking guy that I had a modeling contract with BMG in NY (though no work came from them, so take that as you will) and currently have a talent manager who signed me on that operates in DC...so appearance-wise I'm fine. I'm a licensed real estate agent, though I'm newer at that so it's been a struggle getting that going, and I work part-time at a medical marijuana clinic for my income - point here being that while I'm happy with myself overall, I'm not in a good financial situation and do currently live with my parents. I also live in Delaware, AKA the drive-thru state. My plan is to save money to be able to make a more permanent move to somewhere warmer and more fun while I'm still young enough to enjoy it; maybe California, Florida, or Arizona, heard good things about the weather, nightlife, and women in all three.
In terms of women I maintain a pretty high standard...I don't f*** just for the sake of it, I'm very much attracted to whoever I'm with. COVID made things a lot more difficult because in addition to living in Delaware, now I cannot go up and meet women at the bar, which is the only real place for me to run into people in my age bracket on a day-to-day basis here, and was something I was very good at. So I've largely resorted to Tinder, and that's very hit or miss in and of itself. My success on there has been very minimal, although the last 3 women I've been with have been from that app; Bumble and Hinge thus far haven't paid off with a damn thing.
All of this aside, we come to the part where I want to ask you, the reader, my question...
Guys who are sleeping with attractive women regularly, guys who have a friends with benefits relationship with these women, and guys who enjoy doing this kind of thing as opposed to looking for relationships or delving too deep into "PUA tactics" I ask you this:
What do you do, and what do you suggest I do?
Please do not try to dissuade me and tell me "this isn't the way". I know myself, and I've been like this for quite some time once I started to see success with women. I just want to know from people who are my better in this respect, how do I get better?
Thanks to everybody who read this, I'm looking forward to reading any replies I get. Sorry if this was a bit scatterbrained or long-winded, I've just been in a thinking mood lately.