You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Well some people on here want to get a girlfriend, some people want to get married, I want to be a man*****. If you're experienced with that, feel free to offer your advice. But if not, I'm not sure that the purpose of that post was.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've been there pretty much since I lost my virginity. I've had 2 serious girlfriends and I was never looking for them when I found them. I'm not interested in settling down for a while so I'd like to hear input from the guys on this forum that have the same approach while maintaining their standards.
Problem I have with material is that I feel like it gets a lot of people, myself included, in the mindset of constantly trying to absorb new ideas, information, techniques, etc but never learning how to apply them in their own way.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Indeed...that's what I'm curious about as well for the people that are doing well right now.
For the most part I already do these things. I'm just wondering how to do them better; if there are any "rules" some of the more successful guys like to follow or if they've made any adjustments due to COVID shutting down the bar scene pretty hard.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.