Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Do pushups...of all kinds. Standard, decline, diamond, dive bomber, slow motion 3 in 1, plange, pike press, two twitch speed, side to side, military, wide fly.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This may be your problem. I did the exact same thing for several weeks straight, and then one day I decided to go lower weight and a ton of volume and my chest was sore as hell.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
This is true - if the weight is enough then you will not recruit enough muscle fibers and you'd probably build more muscle flogging your log.Jitterbug said:Let me be the first to point out the obvious that benching 135lb doesn't get you big chesticles. Squeezing them man-titties wouldn't help. Benching progressively heavier weights would.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
We will agree to disagree.Jariel said:I don't believe the actual weight makes a difference rather than how hard it taxes your muscles. It's relative. I've heard a lot of bodybuilders say by slowing down and focusing on form they can make 100lbs feel like 300lbs.
There are also a lot of bodybuilders, myself included, who swear by high volume lifting (low weight and higher reps). I don't have a whole lot of choice as I tore a pectoral muscle a few years ago, but doing 12-14 reps per set has been really good for me and got me much better results (and no injuries) than high weight low reps.
Everyone is different though. If something isn't working for you, try a different tactic. Another common reason guys don't grow when lifting is because they're not eating enough. Obviously if you're working hard and not eating enough protein to rebuild your muscle fibers, you will actually lose muscle.
But it's not the running that makes sprinters muscley, it's their weightlifting routine and diet. There are a lot of other factors here too.Zunder said:A marathon runner does a whole lot more low intensity high volume running than a sprinter. But I am yet to see a marathon runner that comes close to having the musculature of a sprinter.
Obviously I have to disagree here because my own experience proves that high volume training works. I'm 6'4, 15% bodyfat and 220lbs now (after trimming down), but was closer to 250lbs (20% bf) at the peak of bulking...and I've never touched steroids.All the high volume crap as espoused in the muscle magazines fails to take it account that the guys that preach this method are juiced.