Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
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Do pushups...of all kinds. Standard, decline, diamond, dive bomber, slow motion 3 in 1, plange, pike press, two twitch speed, side to side, military, wide fly.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
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This may be your problem. I did the exact same thing for several weeks straight, and then one day I decided to go lower weight and a ton of volume and my chest was sore as hell.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
This is true - if the weight is enough then you will not recruit enough muscle fibers and you'd probably build more muscle flogging your log.Jitterbug said:Let me be the first to point out the obvious that benching 135lb doesn't get you big chesticles. Squeezing them man-titties wouldn't help. Benching progressively heavier weights would.
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We will agree to disagree.Jariel said:I don't believe the actual weight makes a difference rather than how hard it taxes your muscles. It's relative. I've heard a lot of bodybuilders say by slowing down and focusing on form they can make 100lbs feel like 300lbs.
There are also a lot of bodybuilders, myself included, who swear by high volume lifting (low weight and higher reps). I don't have a whole lot of choice as I tore a pectoral muscle a few years ago, but doing 12-14 reps per set has been really good for me and got me much better results (and no injuries) than high weight low reps.
Everyone is different though. If something isn't working for you, try a different tactic. Another common reason guys don't grow when lifting is because they're not eating enough. Obviously if you're working hard and not eating enough protein to rebuild your muscle fibers, you will actually lose muscle.
But it's not the running that makes sprinters muscley, it's their weightlifting routine and diet. There are a lot of other factors here too.Zunder said:A marathon runner does a whole lot more low intensity high volume running than a sprinter. But I am yet to see a marathon runner that comes close to having the musculature of a sprinter.
Obviously I have to disagree here because my own experience proves that high volume training works. I'm 6'4, 15% bodyfat and 220lbs now (after trimming down), but was closer to 250lbs (20% bf) at the peak of bulking...and I've never touched steroids.All the high volume crap as espoused in the muscle magazines fails to take it account that the guys that preach this method are juiced.