Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Do pushups...of all kinds. Standard, decline, diamond, dive bomber, slow motion 3 in 1, plange, pike press, two twitch speed, side to side, military, wide fly.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This may be your problem. I did the exact same thing for several weeks straight, and then one day I decided to go lower weight and a ton of volume and my chest was sore as hell.JPlaya said:Well I know more weight gets you bigger so I do the maximum I can rep pretty much. I rep 135 and I bring it down to where it touches my chest and I try to pump my chest too. All I get is sore arms, but my chest doesn't seem to be sore at all.
This is true - if the weight is enough then you will not recruit enough muscle fibers and you'd probably build more muscle flogging your log.Jitterbug said:Let me be the first to point out the obvious that benching 135lb doesn't get you big chesticles. Squeezing them man-titties wouldn't help. Benching progressively heavier weights would.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
We will agree to disagree.Jariel said:I don't believe the actual weight makes a difference rather than how hard it taxes your muscles. It's relative. I've heard a lot of bodybuilders say by slowing down and focusing on form they can make 100lbs feel like 300lbs.
There are also a lot of bodybuilders, myself included, who swear by high volume lifting (low weight and higher reps). I don't have a whole lot of choice as I tore a pectoral muscle a few years ago, but doing 12-14 reps per set has been really good for me and got me much better results (and no injuries) than high weight low reps.
Everyone is different though. If something isn't working for you, try a different tactic. Another common reason guys don't grow when lifting is because they're not eating enough. Obviously if you're working hard and not eating enough protein to rebuild your muscle fibers, you will actually lose muscle.
But it's not the running that makes sprinters muscley, it's their weightlifting routine and diet. There are a lot of other factors here too.Zunder said:A marathon runner does a whole lot more low intensity high volume running than a sprinter. But I am yet to see a marathon runner that comes close to having the musculature of a sprinter.
Obviously I have to disagree here because my own experience proves that high volume training works. I'm 6'4, 15% bodyfat and 220lbs now (after trimming down), but was closer to 250lbs (20% bf) at the peak of bulking...and I've never touched steroids.All the high volume crap as espoused in the muscle magazines fails to take it account that the guys that preach this method are juiced.