You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wrong.Wow, Vincent finally posts something helpful.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This has got to be the most sad thing I've ever read on a message board. First of all, you're in SoSuave's house now, and he can tell you what you can and can't say any time he wants. The Consititution is about what the government can and can't tell you to do. Dont' try and act like you've had some horrible, unconstitutional act perpetrated against you, you tool. Second, you were banned not because you posted a foot fetish thread, but because you post stupid threads constantly that have no reason being on a pick-up/self-improvement board. This would be less noticable if you ever posted a thread that indicated that you were learning or growing or actually benefitting from this board. And what point is there in asking about fetishes if you won't learn the things to get you a woman to practice it on?MikeViper said:I'll go to somewhere that abides by the constitution.
Good. That was probably the idea behind banning you. You not coming back is a good thing. You wouldn't have been banned if you were in anyway a contributing member, or if you gave any evidence that the questions you asked were actually sensible and had a reason to be on this board.MikeViper said:And no, I probably won't be coming back
Cliffs note of that threadMikeViper said:And I never posted a thread that showed that I was learning, BS:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100727
What've you got to say now? If you say something, it's obviously not going to be right.
No, we wanted you to improve and ever since it became painfully obvious to everyone but you that you are not ever going to improve, mods decided that it was better to improve the site and get you off of it.MikeViper said:you guys want me to improve? Banning me is SURE helping that(It's sarcasm, idiot).
Shut up and whine somewhere else. Seriously, get medicated, your head doesn't work right.MikeViper said:It's obvious that if you actually KNEW anything you wouldn't of banned me in the first place.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ok, :crackup:, post a long list of all your positive threads. We might actually care enough from your list to write a list of our own about whatever negative threads we can find.MikeViper said:show the administrators all of my negative topics, while passing up my positive ones, and again, pull sh*t out of his ass.
There you go, now you see why you were banned. You can't offer opinion of worth, so we got rid of your ability to do so. Feel free to read, but don't comment.MikeViper said:You know? That's nice man, if this site were EVERYTHING I might actually care about being banned. Being banned, doesn't stop me from viewing the advice on this site, being banned doesn't stop me from improving with girls, and being banned, certainly doesn't affect my life. Heh, it's almost a good thing, because I won't have to hang around you losers anymore, I won't have to listen to your bad advice, and I might just be able to get laid.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.