"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So, I went no-contact on her, and now she keeps contacting me...

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Ok, quick background story: I met a girl, and due to the timing of things, I asked her to prom within a few weeks of knowing her. HER IL was quite high, and things were great. Prom was fun...although she had to be home RIGHT after, so nothing much happened. Lots of cuddling at prom though.

However, soon after that she went cold (perhaps it was because her sister dislikes me? who knows). So, I got away from her. I was a senior, and skipped school a lot near the end, so it wasn't too hard :D

Now, about 1.5 months later, she keeps calling/texting. I haven't replied to much of anything, and I keep the conversations to about 3-4 min when I do speak to her. I keep it playful, and use lots of C&F, to which she has responded well.

My plan: Wait until sometime next week, call her up and take her out somewhere.

Do you guys have any experience with situations like this?

UPDATE: She called again!! The second time today. However, I was watching TV and didn't answer. haha...
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If she's the one calling and contacting you, why mess it up? Wait to ask her when she calls you again. Don't go out of your way all of the sudden if it's working for you.
 
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Spot on mav. If her IL is very high, take advantage. You don't need to make a move if she's already making them. However, please make the move when you actually do meet up with her. It sounds like she wants it.
 
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Thanks guys. Although I can't help but being worried she won't call again :nervous: But, oh well :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ARrocket said:
Thanks guys. Although I can't help but being worried she won't call again :nervous: But, oh well :D
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I thought you said that she was calling and texting. If so, why would you be scared that she wouldn't call?
 
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ARrocket said:
Ok, quick background story: I met a girl, and due to the timing of things, I asked her to prom within a few weeks of knowing her. HER IL was quite high, and things were great. Prom was fun...although she had to be home RIGHT after, so nothing much happened. Lots of cuddling at prom though.

However, soon after that she went cold (perhaps it was because her sister dislikes me? who knows). So, I got away from her. I was a senior, and skipped school a lot near the end, so it wasn't too hard :D

Now, about 1.5 months later, she keeps calling/texting. I haven't replied to much of anything, and I keep the conversations to about 3-4 min when I do speak to her. I keep it playful, and use lots of C&F, to which she has responded well.

My plan: Wait until sometime next week, call her up and take her out somewhere.

Do you guys have any experience with situations like this?

UPDATE: She called again!! The second time today. However, I was watching TV and didn't answer. haha...
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Sounds like her IL is sky high right now. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Keep letting her do the calling, and casually suggest that she come over or that the two of you meet somewhere. After that, you know what to do!
 
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Mavrick said:
I thought you said that she was calling and texting. If so, why would you be scared that she wouldn't call?
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Yeah, but if I never reply to anything she might stop. She called last night and I haven't called back.
 
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Yeah, but if I never reply to anything she might stop. She called last night and I haven't called back.
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I didn't say not to reply. How could you have a conversation with someone if you don't reply. Just don't initiate contact if you haven't been doing it in the first place (like I said, why screw up a good thing?). It's ok not to reply or answer sometimes because it really just increases her interest and causes her to second guess herself. Then her ego will get the best of her, and she'll be knocking down your door. lol

If you always answer and you're always available, then she WILL lose interest in you. You've got her wanting to prove herself to her, and that's right where you want her.
 
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I didn't say not to reply. How could you have a conversation with someone if you don't reply. Just don't initiate contact if you haven't been doing it in the first place (like I said, why screw up a good thing?). It's ok not to reply or answer sometimes because it really just increases her interest and causes her to second guess herself. Then her ego will get the best of her, and she'll be knocking down your door. lol

If you always answer and you're always available, then she WILL lose interest in you. You've got her wanting to prove herself to her, and that's right where you want her.
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Yeah, I was thinking along the same lines. Thanks :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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