So, I went no-contact on her, and now she keeps contacting me...

[ARrocket]

Ok, quick background story: I met a girl, and due to the timing of things, I asked her to prom within a few weeks of knowing her. HER IL was quite high, and things were great. Prom was fun...although she had to be home RIGHT after, so nothing much happened. Lots of cuddling at prom though.

However, soon after that she went cold (perhaps it was because her sister dislikes me? who knows). So, I got away from her. I was a senior, and skipped school a lot near the end, so it wasn't too hard

Now, about 1.5 months later, she keeps calling/texting. I haven't replied to much of anything, and I keep the conversations to about 3-4 min when I do speak to her. I keep it playful, and use lots of C&F, to which she has responded well.

My plan: Wait until sometime next week, call her up and take her out somewhere.

Do you guys have any experience with situations like this?

UPDATE: She called again!! The second time today. However, I was watching TV and didn't answer. haha...

 

[Mavrick]

If she's the one calling and contacting you, why mess it up? Wait to ask her when she calls you again. Don't go out of your way all of the sudden if it's working for you.

 

[WC2]

Spot on mav. If her IL is very high, take advantage. You don't need to make a move if she's already making them. However, please make the move when you actually do meet up with her. It sounds like she wants it.

 

[ARrocket]

Thanks guys. Although I can't help but being worried she won't call again :nervous: But, oh well

 

[ARrocket]

The update to the OP says it all

 

[Mavrick]

Thanks guys. Although I can't help but being worried she won't call again :nervous: But, oh well

I thought you said that she was calling and texting. If so, why would you be scared that she wouldn't call?

 

[AKA FLEX]

Ok, quick background story: I met a girl, and due to the timing of things, I asked her to prom within a few weeks of knowing her. HER IL was quite high, and things were great. Prom was fun...although she had to be home RIGHT after, so nothing much happened. Lots of cuddling at prom though.

However, soon after that she went cold (perhaps it was because her sister dislikes me? who knows). So, I got away from her. I was a senior, and skipped school a lot near the end, so it wasn't too hard

Now, about 1.5 months later, she keeps calling/texting. I haven't replied to much of anything, and I keep the conversations to about 3-4 min when I do speak to her. I keep it playful, and use lots of C&F, to which she has responded well.

My plan: Wait until sometime next week, call her up and take her out somewhere.

Do you guys have any experience with situations like this?

UPDATE: She called again!! The second time today. However, I was watching TV and didn't answer. haha...

Sounds like her IL is sky high right now. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Keep letting her do the calling, and casually suggest that she come over or that the two of you meet somewhere. After that, you know what to do!

 

[ARrocket]

I thought you said that she was calling and texting. If so, why would you be scared that she wouldn't call?

Yeah, but if I never reply to anything she might stop. She called last night and I haven't called back.

 

[Mavrick]

Yeah, but if I never reply to anything she might stop. She called last night and I haven't called back.

I didn't say not to reply. How could you have a conversation with someone if you don't reply. Just don't initiate contact if you haven't been doing it in the first place (like I said, why screw up a good thing?). It's ok not to reply or answer sometimes because it really just increases her interest and causes her to second guess herself. Then her ego will get the best of her, and she'll be knocking down your door. lol

If you always answer and you're always available, then she WILL lose interest in you. You've got her wanting to prove herself to her, and that's right where you want her.

 

[ARrocket]

I didn't say not to reply. How could you have a conversation with someone if you don't reply. Just don't initiate contact if you haven't been doing it in the first place (like I said, why screw up a good thing?). It's ok not to reply or answer sometimes because it really just increases her interest and causes her to second guess herself. Then her ego will get the best of her, and she'll be knocking down your door. lol

If you always answer and you're always available, then she WILL lose interest in you. You've got her wanting to prove herself to her, and that's right where you want her.

Yeah, I was thinking along the same lines. Thanks