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So I was a rebound

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She is not using him for sex. She is using him to fill a void, for validation, for company to avoid loneliness. She didn’t like him. For someone who says “learn more, talk less” you sure talk a lot. You literally don’t know what you’re even talking about. All your concepts are waay off.
I think she was attracted to him physically/sexually and enjoyed the sex, but agree that she was using him to fill her "ex void." I do believe the reason she didn't "like" him is because she can't like him, or anyone, since she is still in love with her ex. She will literally "like" nobody until she gets over her ex. She'll compare every guy to him, and when they don't match up (because nobody can), she'll dump them just the same as OP.

I don't even think he "turned her off." I just think she realized he wasn't her ex. Also, her period and being "emotional" on the last time they hungout might've moved that decision along.
 

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No one said they didn’t. Men use women for sex as well....we all know this. Most of the time for woman, they crave the validation and emotion brings to them IF and WHEN they are on the rebound. The point you guys are missing is this girl was FORCED to be away from bf. She was banging op not for sex alone..I guarantee that. Out of loneliness, desperation, confusion, delusion, whatever you want to call it...she never liked him, she’s caught up on her ex. This isn’t an argument about if men or women like sex or use the opposite sex for sex. That is a given.
I suspect her ex left her high and dry
IIRC they dated for 6 months and then he moved away - for the military? What I read is (and maybe im being overly dramatic) she was enjoying their relationship, she was hooked. He had to move away and CHOSE to leave her behind. Im guessing she was crushed and is left wondering why he didnt value the connection as much as she did, and ask her to go with him. aka why were her disney dreams crushed
 

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I think she was attracted to him physically/sexually and enjoyed the sex, but agree that she was using him to fill her "ex void." I do believe the reason she didn't "like" him is because she can't like him, or anyone, since she is still in love with her ex. She will literally "like" nobody until she gets over her ex.
This !!
That simple !!!


idk what all the arguing is about
 

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Everyone is saying she sounds like a nut case but in all actuality you’re the nut case. I don’t mean this in a mean way. Some guys like to dog other guys when in reality it should be to help them.
She is not a nut case, she is a female. She does what females do. If she was really into you she wouldn’t have spewed any of the nonsense she did. It is what it is. She’s on the rebound bro.

To realize youre not thinking straight is beneficial. Wanting a relationship and to wife a girl up after three dates is literally crazy talk.
Telling the girl you miss her and you want to cuddle up with her after three dates is crazy talk.
Expecting that she is over her ex 1 to 2 months after he was forced to move away is crazy talk.
It was all wrong from the start so chalk it up as an experience and do better next time.
Also, don’t text girls like that anymore. Best wishes
So we now live a world where a woman's body is so disposable and useless that regular sex with her is trivial and if she decides one day not to text back we should just act like nothing happened or we get to be viewed as nutjobs?

Take note ladies : Your last detectable quality, your last bargaining chip in this world - is now completely void.
 

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Also want to add that if OP's behavior legitimately turned her off, she probably would've dumped him earlier. He says she was more interested after the first date, even MORE interested after the second date, then lost all interest after the third date. It just doesn't sound normal to me.

Obviously this is just my opinion. Not fact...
 
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What you all are missing is that sometimes the pain of rejection and failure gets compounded over time. OP is experiencing like 100 rejections and 50 failed dates and 3x compounded lifetime scarcity in one mourning period with this girl as a catalyst.
He better get some successes under his belt.
 
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So we now live a world where a woman's body is so disposable and useless that regular sex with her is trivial and if she decides one day not to text back we should just act like nothing happened or we get to be viewed as nutjobs?
Literally the red pill. But, her perspective is more opportunistic, she can do it but you cannot.
 

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she is still in love with her ex. She will literally "like" nobody until she gets over her ex. She'll compare every guy to him, and when they don't match up (because nobody can), she'll dump them just the same as OP.

I don't even think he "turned her off." I just think she realized he wasn't her ex.
Yes, nice summary. Bottom line, she’s currently emotionally unavailable for whatever reason, no matter how good she made it sound to OP earlier…
 

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So we now live a world where a woman's body is so disposable and useless that regular sex with her is trivial and if she decides one day not to text back we should just act like nothing happened or we get to be viewed as nutjobs?

Take note ladies : Your last detectable quality, your last bargaining chip in this world - is now completely void.
She's a young woman on the rebound of an emotional c0cktail which means you can't generalize it to all women in all situations... jesus fvcking christ, what's so hard to understand? why do you have to dramatize it into a "warning note" for women? jesus....
 
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She's a young woman on the rebound of an emotional c0cktail which means you can't generalize it to all women in all situations... jesus fvcking christ, what's so hard to understand? why do you have to dramatize it into a "warning note" for women? jesus....
Agreed. Believe it or not, this is a extraordinary situation. Yes, you see this kind of thing on forums a lot, but it's rare in the actual world. Most women are emotional, but do not act like this. Most women get more attached after sex and get more attached the more they see you. OP is just one of the unlucky, poor bastards who got sucked into a damaged girl's emotional whirlwind. Literally exact same situation with one of the other, undamaged, 98% of women? We would've never seen this topic.
 

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So we now live a world where a woman's body is so disposable and useless that regular sex with her is trivial and if she decides one day not to text back we should just act like nothing happened or we get to be viewed as nutjobs?

Take note ladies : Your last detectable quality, your last bargaining chip in this world - is now completely void.
What the fvck are you talking about? Everything you wrote was the dumbest sh!t I’ve read all week. That’s impressive. You’re a nut job for sure.
You’re only mentioning one tiny piece of the whole equation. Are you telling me out of his entire post that was your only take away? Then yes I would deem you to be a nut job. Wow.
 

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What the fvck are you talking about? Everything you wrote was the dumbest sh!t I’ve read all week. That’s impressive. You’re a nut job for sure.
You’re only mentioning one tiny piece of the whole equation. Are you telling me out of his entire post that was your only take away? Then yes I would deem you to be a nut job. Wow.
Lol what a hissy fit :rofl:
 

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This is nothing more than an attempt to be an a$$ as I had several male posters agree with me but you didnt single them out. Stop trying to manipulate posters on this site with your bvllchit
What does that even mean? I'm trying to "manipulate" you by calling out your ridiculous advice? :confused:

Anybody who suggests that one should take anything that a woman says in the dating context (or a man says, for that matter) at face value deserves to be ridiculed.
 
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I ignored a lot of bad signs. And there were several obvious ones right in front of me... Gave me her number very quickly on a dating app, which girls (especially super hot ones with a lot of options) don't do, fake boobs, she gets lip filler injections, 3/4 nude "modeling" pics all over instagram and 15k followers, hairdresser, always out by the pool tanning, always wearing a lot of makeup, said I had "really nice skin" (only strikes me as weird because I think I have relatively average skin). No single one of these things is a sign, but I feel like all of them together are a sign she has self-image issues, some kind of body dismorphia, or just isn't happy with the way she looks (even though she's super hot).

Then of course the less obvious emotional stuff that came out after meeting... 2 months out of a relationship with unfinished business, still likes all her ex's pics on instagram, texting me often, the compliments, validation, sexting, practically begging to see me again after the first and seconds dates, etc...
 

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I ignored a lot of bad signs. And there were several obvious ones right in front of me... Gave me her number very quickly on a dating app, which girls (especially super hot ones with a lot of options) don't do, fake boobs, she gets lip filler injections, 3/4 nude "modeling" pics all over instagram and 15k followers, hairdresser, always out by the pool tanning, always wearing a lot of makeup, said I had "really nice skin" (only strikes me as weird because I think I have relatively average skin). No single one of these things is a sign, but I feel like all of them together are a sign she has self-image issues, some kind of body dismorphia, or just isn't happy with the way she looks (even though she's super hot).

Then of course the less obvious emotional stuff that came out after meeting... 2 months out of a relationship with unfinished business, still likes all her ex's pics on instagram, texting me often, the compliments, validation, sexting, practically begging to see me again after the first and seconds dates, etc...
Wait...you wanted to wife up this ho?? Hairdresser with fake boobs and lip injections, who lives for the Instagram? Are you for real?
 

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Also might've been a bad sign when she told me that at 19 (6 years ago), she married a guy after a month of dating because he was in the military and had to move to another state...
 

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I ignored a lot of bad signs. And there were several obvious ones right in front of me... Gave me her number very quickly on a dating app, which girls (especially super hot ones with a lot of options) don't do, fake boobs, she gets lip filler injections, 3/4 nude "modeling" pics all over instagram and 15k followers, hairdresser, always out by the pool tanning, always wearing a lot of makeup, said I had "really nice skin" (only strikes me as weird because I think I have relatively average skin). No single one of these things is a sign, but I feel like all of them together are a sign she has self-image issues, some kind of body dismorphia, or just isn't happy with the way she looks (even though she's super hot).

Then of course the less obvious emotional stuff that came out after meeting... 2 months out of a relationship with unfinished business, still likes all her ex's pics on instagram, texting me often, the compliments, validation, sexting, practically begging to see me again after the first and seconds dates, etc...
So basically she’s a trainwreck. Deep down inside she really doesn’t love herself so any guy that shows her any kind of affection, she’s going to see as low value.

You can only appreciate women who love themselves. In this world, everything makes sense. up is up, and down is down.

What you need to do is love yourself enough to raise your standards so that you can live in this world of “making sense.”
 
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