Dante420
Master Don Juan
Now that my social proof is gone, I have no friends to bring people around with. I'll prolly sound desperate anytime people wanna make plans, what to do now?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
So I Lost My Friends, How Am I Suppose to DJ Now?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
uhhh How did you manage to do that?
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Tyson420 said:uhhh How did you manage to do that?
Me and my best friend kinda lead our clique, we don't normally hang out with the rest so it was normally just me and him chillin with the girls and we'd meet up with the others for blazing and other stuff we did, but he had more rapport with them.
Me and him ended up not friends and as a result me and the rest aren't friends, so now I am going to have to work on building a new circle before I move across the country a few months from now.
Since your moving anyway... concentrate on getting in the gym, getting some new clothes and getting some money in your pocket. Worry about a new social circle when you get there. Make this a mission and stay committed.
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Thank you sirWarrior74 said:Since your moving anyway... concentrate on getting in the gym, getting some new clothes and getting some money in your pocket. Worry about a new social circle when you get there. Make this a mission and stay committed.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
moneyisking
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same thing happened, although i didn't un-friend my friend, he simply had to drop out from one semester to get some unfinished business done, but he's coming back next sem, so we gona blast the f-ck out of this city.
BTW, about your situation, I kind of had to make new friends again after my friend left for a while, b/c i really never hung out with others than him and his buddies and some of my buddies, but it was mostly me and him. I learned a lot thanks to his absence. Mainly don't get bogged down making friends. Just be cool, a man, and have fun. Don't be a serious dumb azz. Then they will mostly think you're cool. One big thing I learned is that you must act, not react. Meaning go say hello to him and her first in parties. It's simple as "hey I don't think I got to know you, whats your name?". and then just be HAPPY and FUN you. I learned a lot from absence of my friend, and now, I have a lot of friends, find parties somehow, and get to know more friends. Hope you do well too
BTW, about your situation, I kind of had to make new friends again after my friend left for a while, b/c i really never hung out with others than him and his buddies and some of my buddies, but it was mostly me and him. I learned a lot thanks to his absence. Mainly don't get bogged down making friends. Just be cool, a man, and have fun. Don't be a serious dumb azz. Then they will mostly think you're cool. One big thing I learned is that you must act, not react. Meaning go say hello to him and her first in parties. It's simple as "hey I don't think I got to know you, whats your name?". and then just be HAPPY and FUN you. I learned a lot from absence of my friend, and now, I have a lot of friends, find parties somehow, and get to know more friends. Hope you do well too
sageproduct
Banned
Kinda similar situation for me, but I'm losing my friends by choice...they're AFC, mostly douches, and the girls in the group are ugly prude btiches, except for one who is hot and whips all my guy friends...annoying as fck. Kinda hard to just jump into another group tho.
I usually don't like this guy but his advice here is golden. There's a saying; The best friend you can have is money. Get some money saved up. Buy some nice things. Go get in the gym. People will talk to you and you will be okay. People are drawn to strength, not weakness.Warrior74 said:Since your moving anyway... concentrate on getting in the gym, getting some new clothes and getting some money in your pocket. Worry about a new social circle when you get there. Make this a mission and stay committed.