...But I think I'm a little out of her league. This girl is about an HB-5/6 but I've dated HB-8/9 before. The thing is, this girl is awesome. Shes really really cool and we hangout all the time and shes just great. But i know i could do a lot better myself hot wise. And I'd really like to date her because she likes me too but I'm kind of embarrassed. I don't to get made fun of =\. Any advice?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So I like this girl...
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Dude
Do whatever makes you happy
Who cares what anyone thinks
Do whatever makes you happy
Who cares what anyone thinks
zubs
Don Juan
dont hook up with her. you say shes awesome and its alright to be just friends with a girl. once you hook up with her, everything will change.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zubs
Don Juan
dont hook up with her. you say shes awesome and its alright to be just friends with a girl. once you hook up with her, everything will change.
LostAndConfused
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In this context, this is good advice.zubs said:
But take it how you will my friend, Johnny Soporno made a good thread about how to turn friend girls into girlfriends recently.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
If you like her, you like her. If you are embarrassed by her, then you need to work on yourself....
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
wtf ?
Trust me i would date a great girl (hb5-6) that i have fun with her more than some snob 8's and 9's .
I would recomand to date her and have fun with her. As redspicyflag said Who the fvck cares what everybody says . There is gonna be always someone that is gonna try to destroy your happiness . If we pay attention to them we gonna fail in life . Fvck them , do whatever u want .
( ive dated some really hot girls but now i realized that they dont worth any minute of my time )
Trust me i would date a great girl (hb5-6) that i have fun with her more than some snob 8's and 9's .
I would recomand to date her and have fun with her. As redspicyflag said Who the fvck cares what everybody says . There is gonna be always someone that is gonna try to destroy your happiness . If we pay attention to them we gonna fail in life . Fvck them , do whatever u want .
( ive dated some really hot girls but now i realized that they dont worth any minute of my time )
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
This comes back to not caring what anyone thinks.
This is a big problem for me too, because there are certain 5-6s who for some reason I want to fuk just as bad as the my typical 9s. I'm so used to talking to 8s and up that I really never tried fuking those 5-6s.
But what I've done now is I dropped the whole rating system. It's either I would or wouldn't fuk her. Honestly who cares what people think about you, at the end of the day your fuking her.
Also if her personality is cool, and you don't even want to fuk her then just befriend her. For me there are certain 5s and 6s that I want to fuk silly because there is something about them that makes me want to.
This is a big problem for me too, because there are certain 5-6s who for some reason I want to fuk just as bad as the my typical 9s. I'm so used to talking to 8s and up that I really never tried fuking those 5-6s.
But what I've done now is I dropped the whole rating system. It's either I would or wouldn't fuk her. Honestly who cares what people think about you, at the end of the day your fuking her.
Also if her personality is cool, and you don't even want to fuk her then just befriend her. For me there are certain 5s and 6s that I want to fuk silly because there is something about them that makes me want to.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
thanks everyone for their reply. Thing is, I know i shouldn't give a **** what other people think but i just do for some fvcking reason i just dont want to. but this girl has also been my best friend since we were 5 years old so i dont know how it would change if we dated.
1life
Don Juan
what does a 5 look like? isnt anything below HB7 called UG (for ugly girls)..
you're saying you know her since you're 5yr old?? Well, if you are willing to go out with her, you can say goodbye to that friendship because it won't be the same after you too break up (which will eventualy happen)..
so you gotta make the choice between: keeping a friendship with a UG you've known for a lot of years, a friendship that seems to count for you...OR..trying to hook up with this girl who you think is below your standards, which will eventualy destroy your friendship...think about it.
you're saying you know her since you're 5yr old?? Well, if you are willing to go out with her, you can say goodbye to that friendship because it won't be the same after you too break up (which will eventualy happen)..
so you gotta make the choice between: keeping a friendship with a UG you've known for a lot of years, a friendship that seems to count for you...OR..trying to hook up with this girl who you think is below your standards, which will eventualy destroy your friendship...think about it.
Dawg if she's your best friend, KNOW that if you try and date her, you run a high risk of losing this best friendedness you guys got going on.blink-182 said:
Then again, your best friend *should* be a guy. I see it as you need a dude who you can talk to about guy stuff without worrying about ****. I guess you can do that with girls but its not the same at all.
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relationships ruin friendships, the end. 
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
You know.. In my high school days I dated quite a few HB 8's and 9's. Then, like you; I ran into a girl who is not bad looking and she is cool. So, I dated her to see how things ended up. She turned out to be the best girlfriend I ever had! Sure, she wasn't the hottest and I knew I could of done better. But, it's all about what makes you happy. Even friends can become lovers too.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
dude shes not like my one best friend. i have like 4. and i do have guy best friends to talk about all my shti with them. but yeah i'm thinkin not date her because i dont want to lose what we have now. thanks everyoneI Am Sam said:
PuroDeAgave
Don Juan
if shes your best friend and you date her,
eventually youre gonna be listening to the AVA song "it hurts"
your best friend is not your girlfriend.
eventually youre gonna be listening to the AVA song "it hurts"
your best friend is not your girlfriend.