"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So I haven't been around much....

Warrior74

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...because I lost my job. And I gotta say, while my prospects for finding another one in my field at my current pay in my current area are dim, I've never felt better. I didn't realize how much I hated that place until I was free of it. Now I am going to have to scramble. I have some savings and some money coming that should get me through the next 3-4 months, I've paid off all of my debts except for my car and student loans, and my side business has been picking up tremendously. I also landed a part time job with a friend at his business. I'm kinda scared but it feels good too, I really hated that place. The constant worry over getting fired and the nonexistent raises and advancements got old after 6 years. Not to mention the clueless, overbearing, preeening and corrupt management.

How does this relate to women? Well for one...everyone has been talking about how happy I seem. I've had a swagger in my step knowing that I'm moving on. I was at the bank sorting out somethings on my business account and got a date with the chic who was helping me. This after I tell her I just lost my job and she can see I have 200 bucks in my business account. Why? Because I'm hungry, I'm feeling ambitious again, and I think people can sense that. I know things are going to work out. I have plans B. C.and D. lined up. None of them are terrible, just slightly uncomfortable.

Anyway, see you guys around. I gotta get a lot done in the next two months.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sometimes **** like that is exactly what you need to finally have the light switch go on so to speak. best of luck man. you will be fine.
 

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Good Luck to you man I need that swift kick in the ass to get me in gear...

You will be fine stay hungry
 

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I wish I had that mentality when I first lost my job, it would have saved me through the depression and lack of motivation, great post!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

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