"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So I ask this girl out...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You should really get an average part of your INNER game down before starting with your outter game.
But basically:
Did you ask her in an alpha confident way?
Did you looked her in her eyes and smiled before and while asking? (You should look her especially in her left eye, because it is connected with her right sied of her brain, wich is the side of the imagiantion. I could explain you why if you want).
Did you showed your hens so she can grab it?
Did your actions told her it was no big deal for you to go with her? (so she wouldn't feel like she already "had" you?)
Did you had good body language?
NO!
Probably you just approached her and asked her directly in a non confident way while lookign at your own feet with you head down.
Just get your inner game donw first.
If you need help I'll be here.
Hope that helped.
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My advice: pay special attention to DIESEL's post. The one he did on GP.com and the BULKING thing.
You have to metamorph yourself into a MAN. NO WAY a girl would laugh if you projected sexual prowess.
But do not dwell on the negative aspect, never. Get strenght man, use the grief as energy to change. You'll be SO FINE.
Now get to work!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
That and I'm not exactly a natural when it comes to flirting or displaying sexual interest. When that comes into play I stiffen up and can't shake the idea that it would make me look like an ass. It's even more like that in my case since these people are people I've been friends with for a long time, usually, so the change would be weird.
Even though I know that's not quite true since I see it work for other people, but that's the way it is.
I think you're mistaken about what being attracted to someone means here. You know what a good looking girl looks like.. one you'd like to ****.DarkChaos said:My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
When you say "attracted" in the quote above, I think you mean developing one-itis. Where you've played out a long relationship with the person within the confines of your own imagination. And you feel a connection with this imagined woman. You transpose your feelings for this fantasy onto the real person and put them on a pedestal.
From this day forward, don't ever go the friends route with someone you want to see naked.