"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
So I ask this girl out...
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You should really get an average part of your INNER game down before starting with your outter game.
But basically:
Did you ask her in an alpha confident way?
Did you looked her in her eyes and smiled before and while asking? (You should look her especially in her left eye, because it is connected with her right sied of her brain, wich is the side of the imagiantion. I could explain you why if you want).
Did you showed your hens so she can grab it?
Did your actions told her it was no big deal for you to go with her? (so she wouldn't feel like she already "had" you?)
Did you had good body language?
NO!
Probably you just approached her and asked her directly in a non confident way while lookign at your own feet with you head down.
Just get your inner game donw first.
If you need help I'll be here.
Hope that helped.
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My advice: pay special attention to DIESEL's post. The one he did on GP.com and the BULKING thing.
You have to metamorph yourself into a MAN. NO WAY a girl would laugh if you projected sexual prowess.
But do not dwell on the negative aspect, never. Get strenght man, use the grief as energy to change. You'll be SO FINE.
Now get to work!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
That and I'm not exactly a natural when it comes to flirting or displaying sexual interest. When that comes into play I stiffen up and can't shake the idea that it would make me look like an ass. It's even more like that in my case since these people are people I've been friends with for a long time, usually, so the change would be weird.
Even though I know that's not quite true since I see it work for other people, but that's the way it is.
I think you're mistaken about what being attracted to someone means here. You know what a good looking girl looks like.. one you'd like to ****.DarkChaos said:My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
When you say "attracted" in the quote above, I think you mean developing one-itis. Where you've played out a long relationship with the person within the confines of your own imagination. And you feel a connection with this imagined woman. You transpose your feelings for this fantasy onto the real person and put them on a pedestal.
From this day forward, don't ever go the friends route with someone you want to see naked.