"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So I ask this girl out...
- Thread starter DarkChaos
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You should really get an average part of your INNER game down before starting with your outter game.
But basically:
Did you ask her in an alpha confident way?
Did you looked her in her eyes and smiled before and while asking? (You should look her especially in her left eye, because it is connected with her right sied of her brain, wich is the side of the imagiantion. I could explain you why if you want).
Did you showed your hens so she can grab it?
Did your actions told her it was no big deal for you to go with her? (so she wouldn't feel like she already "had" you?)
Did you had good body language?
NO!
Probably you just approached her and asked her directly in a non confident way while lookign at your own feet with you head down.
Just get your inner game donw first.
If you need help I'll be here.
Hope that helped.
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My advice: pay special attention to DIESEL's post. The one he did on GP.com and the BULKING thing.
You have to metamorph yourself into a MAN. NO WAY a girl would laugh if you projected sexual prowess.
But do not dwell on the negative aspect, never. Get strenght man, use the grief as energy to change. You'll be SO FINE.
Now get to work!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
That and I'm not exactly a natural when it comes to flirting or displaying sexual interest. When that comes into play I stiffen up and can't shake the idea that it would make me look like an ass. It's even more like that in my case since these people are people I've been friends with for a long time, usually, so the change would be weird.
Even though I know that's not quite true since I see it work for other people, but that's the way it is.
I think you're mistaken about what being attracted to someone means here. You know what a good looking girl looks like.. one you'd like to ****.DarkChaos said:My problem is that I'm not easily attracted to people who I just met, so I take a long time to get to know them, and then somehow I'll suddenly realize that over time I've developed an interest with the person as I've known them as a friend. But obviously by then I'm not on the radar as someone to date.
When you say "attracted" in the quote above, I think you mean developing one-itis. Where you've played out a long relationship with the person within the confines of your own imagination. And you feel a connection with this imagined woman. You transpose your feelings for this fantasy onto the real person and put them on a pedestal.
From this day forward, don't ever go the friends route with someone you want to see naked.