"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So.....her HUSBAND called me today

jaybeezi

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So I've been talking to this girl for awhile, things were going kinda slowly, she wouldnt give me her # at first, then she told me she was over moving 2 hours away, then that she was moving back, then after a month of no contact she calls me at 1am, then again after a month of no contact she calls me at 2am and tells me she's moving again.

We were supposed to meet somewhere and she showed up late, and I had already left (she was over 1hr late), and now today some guy calls me and asks if I know her, where I know her from etc... and tells me that she's married, and if I talk to her again he's gonna come after me blah blah blah.

I'm definately not going to try and see her again, but I dont like being threatened....not that I cant see where he's coming from...but yea, what the hell is wrong with girls these days days, i'm still trying to get out of my afc ways, I seriously dont need this shyt.

Just wanted to tell some people.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hollowpoint

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uh oh, does he know your number? it's quite bad if he knows your home base


:(


other than that stay away ahaha, poor you
 

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WTF is he calling you for... if I were you I'd bang her and then mail him the tape
 

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yea, he called me today

me: hello
him: who is this
me: who are you
him: who is this
me: you called me
him: did u call me yesterday
me: ?
him: at 555-5555, do u know (name)
me: ya
him: ok
'click'

then he called again 5 min later

me:hello
him:hey you, just to let u know (name) is married, and if I find out that you talk to her or see her again i'm gonna come after you, ok
me:.........she is? uhh, ya, alright, well thats not something I would do, thats not me, so u dont have to worry about that, and u dont need to try and threaten me.
him.....
'click'
 

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It's always rediculous when people call to make threats over the phone. The smartest thing to do would be to drop this chick immediately. Did you know she was married?

It's probably no big deal in the long run, but if bro has your home number and a vindictive nature, you might need to be ready for some BS.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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golf299

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i love when guys threaten other guys that are messing with their women. the only smart thing to do is to drop the chick. anything else is moronic.
 

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I'm always amazed when guys/husbands call the 'other guy' to threaten them.
Seems to me they should be talking to their wife/girlfriend to understand what's going on. It wouldn't deter me. If the situation is unworkable for the 'husband', he should leave her - what good will come from threatening you 'the other guy' or worse the woman ? And here's some good advice: be careful who you threaten - you don't know what your dealing with...
 
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HAHAHA

You should have told him to shut the fukk up and that you would whup his ass and still talk to his wife...
 

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no, I didnt know she was married.

She just called me, and apparently had no idea that I her husband had called me, I told her a guy called me and said that she was married, and she said "what, no" and then I told her that he said it was his phone and asked if I knew u etc... and she said "no its my phone, hey i'll call you back, I have to check something"....o..k..
 

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Dude, you're scaring me... :p I'll just see how my situation pans out.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Married?????

If she is married-----GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!

Damy
 

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!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

The call is comming from inside the house.....
 

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Originally posted by jaybeezi
no, I didnt know she was married.

She just called me, and apparently had no idea that I her husband had called me, I told her a guy called me and said that she was married, and she said "what, no" and then I told her that he said it was his phone and asked if I knew u etc... and she said "no its my phone, hey i'll call you back, I have to check something"....o..k..
She never called back, what a surprise. We had planned to get together today, before I got the news that she was married. I guess for some odd reason she changed her mind. All my friends warned me about her, shoulda listened.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If shes going to cheat on him, she'll do it with anyone. something Mr.dumbsh|t has to realise, instead of threatening people
 

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Hmm...yeah, best to just be civil and say "sorry, I didn' t know." But if he calls again, just be like, "Look, I don't go around looking for married chicks and she didn't say sh!t to me about a husband, so grow some nuts and put your slutty-azz wife back in line, cuz if I'm not banging her, someone else will."
 

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WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? :confused:
Call the cops? Be civil? Apologize?

It's obvious that this woman wanted to start an affair of hot passioante sex with no strings attached! Once you made a big deal about it and probabbly soudned like a pvssy she got turned off and now she'll go find somebody else that will want to fvck her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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