"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So can anybody help improve my looks

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you plan on being a blue collar worker, I suggest tatoos (neck forearm back). Chicks LOVEEE tats. Other than that just start lifting as if you're gonna be a bodybuilder someday

As for clothes, I like shirts from www.designedbyhumans.com I know alot of people here are against the whole graphic-T thing, but I think you really standout with those types of shirts
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.
Work out and add muscle. Keep your shape up on your hair fresh. If you can get a T Blade machine so you can keep your hair line straight and fresh all the time when you dont have time or money to get a hair cut. You'll be alright.
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.

all you need is a good high quality hair cut (maybe grow a small goaty) and more confidence in you facial expressions... many young black females will like you but you cant compete against those light skin girly pretty boy type they just love soooo much..lol

If you are trying to get laid quick by the young popular urban girls you (the preppy polo look is out of style..lol)will need some dreads and large "diamond" ear rings. wear some adidas abercrombie or aeropostale etc.. and air jordans on your feet ...its all about being in style and hanging with other stylish dudes..!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You look kinda like this guy I played JV and Varsity high school football with. Anyway, just start lifting heavy and eating clean and you'll be good to go. Also, wear more fitted shirts when you get a bit bigger.
 

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Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
 

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JPlaya said:
Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
Not as much as me though! I think you need muscles and confidence. Money helps too!
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.

1. You might want to get a fade or some 360 waves.
2. Put in some work at the gym. 12 weeks will do wonders for you.

also, come over to http://officialupa.19.forumer.com/index.php and chop it up with some of the playas over there. They have a better urban perspective there, not that the game here isn't helpful.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JPlaya said:
I'm not going to be a blue collar worker though
JPlaya said:
Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
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But im not urban

JPlaya, you are seriously the king of the worthless response. Dudes will spend 15 minutes writing up some 2-paragraph response to you, and all you'll have to say is some sh1t like, "but I dont wanna".. Are you slow?

And THIS is why I don't deal with you anymore. Accept the advice that pertains to you. Ignore what doesn't. Considering that no one here knows your personality, that's the best you can do.
 

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Hey bro, why not just get a woman (could be a relative) to help you out with your looks?? Women LOVE makeovers; just watch any daytime talk show. You could even ask a female store clerk in a clothing store to help you find clothes that compliment you. I think that's much more beneficial than asking a bunch of guys how to improve your looks....
 

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Good suggestion. The thing is I dont act urban to begin with and im trying to attract white girls. Im probably due for a haircut and im able to go the gym but like twice a week. Anything i can do in between
 

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Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
You give white people too much credit for being civilized. Ever see the trash in a trailer park? Yeah. Being civilized and well off has nothing to do with race.

As far as improving appearance sure you can grow some facial hair. You can also put on some muscle to fit in that shirt better. The rest is style. Don't wear trashy clothes that are ripped and ****. They're the style now... but the classics always work.

Nice suit. Some nice polo shirts, medium fit jeans made of quality material with a slight stretch and good stitching ($60 minimum)... etc.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JPlaya said:
Good suggestion. The thing is I dont act urban to begin with and im trying to attract white girls. Im probably due for a haircut and im able to go the gym but like twice a week. Anything i can do in between

You can't go wrong with floor exercises. Oh and white girls like athletic black guys usually. (Lol, I got quite a bit of exp in that area) Like others said on here, just keep a decent haircut and stay lifting.
 

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Chicks dig some style. White black whatev, get some swagger, don't wear f*cking polo shirts and jeans - lame. Get some trendy clothes that fit you well and some simple, but interesting bling. I've noticed that dudes with the most outlandish and unique style have a leg up, they are more noticable. That shirt was fine, but maybe with a unique blazer and some torn jeans and dress shoes.
 

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Grow facial hair, get buff.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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