"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So can anybody help improve my looks

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you plan on being a blue collar worker, I suggest tatoos (neck forearm back). Chicks LOVEEE tats. Other than that just start lifting as if you're gonna be a bodybuilder someday

As for clothes, I like shirts from www.designedbyhumans.com I know alot of people here are against the whole graphic-T thing, but I think you really standout with those types of shirts
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.
Work out and add muscle. Keep your shape up on your hair fresh. If you can get a T Blade machine so you can keep your hair line straight and fresh all the time when you dont have time or money to get a hair cut. You'll be alright.
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.

all you need is a good high quality hair cut (maybe grow a small goaty) and more confidence in you facial expressions... many young black females will like you but you cant compete against those light skin girly pretty boy type they just love soooo much..lol

If you are trying to get laid quick by the young popular urban girls you (the preppy polo look is out of style..lol)will need some dreads and large "diamond" ear rings. wear some adidas abercrombie or aeropostale etc.. and air jordans on your feet ...its all about being in style and hanging with other stylish dudes..!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You look kinda like this guy I played JV and Varsity high school football with. Anyway, just start lifting heavy and eating clean and you'll be good to go. Also, wear more fitted shirts when you get a bit bigger.
 

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Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
 

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JPlaya said:
Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
Not as much as me though! I think you need muscles and confidence. Money helps too!
 

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JPlaya said:
http://i644.photobucket.com/albums/uu170/poptart180/045.jpg

This was late at night and I usually wear ralph lauren polos and shorts when I'm out with friends or at school. If I don't care what I'm dressing up I'll usually just wear my high school shirts with shorts. I've started working out and I'm trying to get bigger. People also say I dress up like I'm going to golf or something.

1. You might want to get a fade or some 360 waves.
2. Put in some work at the gym. 12 weeks will do wonders for you.

also, come over to http://officialupa.19.forumer.com/index.php and chop it up with some of the playas over there. They have a better urban perspective there, not that the game here isn't helpful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JPlaya said:
I'm not going to be a blue collar worker though
JPlaya said:
Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
JPlaya said:
But im not urban

JPlaya, you are seriously the king of the worthless response. Dudes will spend 15 minutes writing up some 2-paragraph response to you, and all you'll have to say is some sh1t like, "but I dont wanna".. Are you slow?

And THIS is why I don't deal with you anymore. Accept the advice that pertains to you. Ignore what doesn't. Considering that no one here knows your personality, that's the best you can do.
 

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Hey bro, why not just get a woman (could be a relative) to help you out with your looks?? Women LOVE makeovers; just watch any daytime talk show. You could even ask a female store clerk in a clothing store to help you find clothes that compliment you. I think that's much more beneficial than asking a bunch of guys how to improve your looks....
 

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Good suggestion. The thing is I dont act urban to begin with and im trying to attract white girls. Im probably due for a haircut and im able to go the gym but like twice a week. Anything i can do in between
 

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Lol wtf im like the whitest black guy causei grew up in a nice area
You give white people too much credit for being civilized. Ever see the trash in a trailer park? Yeah. Being civilized and well off has nothing to do with race.

As far as improving appearance sure you can grow some facial hair. You can also put on some muscle to fit in that shirt better. The rest is style. Don't wear trashy clothes that are ripped and ****. They're the style now... but the classics always work.

Nice suit. Some nice polo shirts, medium fit jeans made of quality material with a slight stretch and good stitching ($60 minimum)... etc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JPlaya said:
Good suggestion. The thing is I dont act urban to begin with and im trying to attract white girls. Im probably due for a haircut and im able to go the gym but like twice a week. Anything i can do in between

You can't go wrong with floor exercises. Oh and white girls like athletic black guys usually. (Lol, I got quite a bit of exp in that area) Like others said on here, just keep a decent haircut and stay lifting.
 

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Chicks dig some style. White black whatev, get some swagger, don't wear f*cking polo shirts and jeans - lame. Get some trendy clothes that fit you well and some simple, but interesting bling. I've noticed that dudes with the most outlandish and unique style have a leg up, they are more noticable. That shirt was fine, but maybe with a unique blazer and some torn jeans and dress shoes.
 

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Grow facial hair, get buff.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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