HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
Keep your hair short, it suits you way better. And you definitively have that 'something' going for you. Other than that, I guess you just need to grow a pair =P
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Robyn923b said:PS: I get the feeling you are a grenade trying to get attention. Let's see your pics in the "I see where this is going" thread; no stealing pics from some girl's profile!
Yeah it sucks. But I always facial hair couldn't get more badass than a goatee. They're a lot of work to manage from what I've heard. Scruff at the very least is cool.manonfire said:I had similar problems my features are naturally softer and boyish. I grew some facial hair and suddenly people started percieveing me differently. Girls that ignored me gave me more attention cuz i looked my rugged and masculine.
grow a beard!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Robyn923b said:You can speak for yourself, but you can't speak for all women. Plus you're only seventeen, you change what you want every week, dude. And even if you wre 25, women never know what they truly want.
Most girls will find it a turn off if you do it too often. It can also intimidate the shy/insecure girls and keep them from approaching you.
PS: I get the feeling you are a grenade trying to get attention. Let's see your pics in the "I see where this is going" thread; no stealing pics from some girl's profile!
Lol! That's nice subtlety. I just don't want to give off a nice guy (or ugly dude) vibe and def don't want to be the "middle of the road" guy that you often see brought up. It's worse than being ugly or weird in my opinion.BBbardot said:THIS
and it's written "je ne sais quoi"
so, just so it's clear op.. you're saying that girls are not waiting in line to give you head???
this is odd.
Yo my man you got them sex eyes. i hope you drilled that cutie real hardMarvin Gaye said:I want to know if you guys get a Nice Guy/Fag Guy/Sexy Guy vibe from the pictures and what I can do to maybe change that. rock on Sosuave :rockon:
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BBbardot said:VERY STRONG POTENTIAL
man you have something about you... You don't have a classic look but i think you have a even better potential than a guy that is classicly handsome. Your face as personality, it's different USE IT. be confident, you have the absolute mean to be.
oh and don't grow your hair out like on last pic, makes you look awkward when you're not.
great potential srs, don't ruin it. If you grow in your 20's well, i promise many girl are going to crazy about that face/ attitude.
BBbardot said:his arrogant look is hot. He shouldn't change it
and i know better,I'm a very straight girl![]()
Kirro said:OP has a movie star look going on. That arrogant look makes you look badass, throw on some facial hair & you're set.
FairShake said:If you're ugly, you'll know it. Women (and men) will have told you. Or they will have said "Looks don't matter anyway."
If you're hot, you'll definitely know it. Women (and men) will have told you. Or shown you.
It's the average people who don't hear much about how they look. If you aren't getting any comments consider yourself in the mediocre middle and be content with looking the best you can.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well I'm about average 5'9, I'm really hoping to push out a couple more inches before I hit twenty-one, when male bodies stop growing.Mike32ct said:I don't know your height, but you appear relatively tall. That's a plus. I wouldn't worry too much about being skinny. Tall dudes can get away with being skinny.
, you do have a very young, boyish look. That will be an advantage 10 years from now. But for now, I agree with those that suggest you get some facial hair to look more masculine. It doesn't have to be goatee. Maybe just a light beard, or a 5o'clock shadow or some "scruff" as you say. Add that to the arrogant look and you're good to go dude.
Well no one really stares at ugly/creepy people. Unless their face is on fire or something.Marvin Gaye said:Well I'm about average 5'9, I'm really hoping to push out a couple more inches before I hit twenty-one, when male bodies stop growing.
Yeah I've seen some 5'clock shadow on some dudes which totally seals the "don't give a fuk" attitude for most DJs
See the thing is I just don't know the difference between a "he's hot" stare from a girl, and the "whoa that guy is so ugly and creepy" stare from a B1tch, it's confusing. Both of them are kind of speechless and really focused, haha.
FairShake's advice sounds pretty spot-on though
So I guess Sosuave's conclusive answer is 'boredom' + 'facial hair' = badass hahaha, alright cool, this advice isn't too common in the DJ Bible though I think it needs to be updated with 'physicality stuff.Kirro said:OP has a movie star look going on. That arrogant look makes you look badass, throw on some facial hair & you're set.
But wouldn't a person with a totally asymetric face catch your eye, don't you find it hard to tear away from a strange looking person?Iceberg said:Well no one really stares at ugly/creepy people. Unless their face is on fire or something.
So I wouldn't worry about people staring at you out of ugliness. People don't do that. Not outside of 7th grade.
No. I mean, when I was a little kid, I'm sure I stared at strange looking people a lot. After you reach the stage when you realize that it's rude / strange, you stop.Marvin Gaye said:So I guess Sosuave's conclusive answer is 'boredom' + 'facial hair' = badass hahaha, alright cool, this advice isn't too common in the DJ Bible though I think it needs to be updated with 'physicality stuff.
But wouldn't a person with a totally asymetric face catch your eye, don't you find it hard to tear away from a strange looking person?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.