"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So after you've banged enough girls that your content

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cola said:
What's next?
Secure your future.
Do things that make you happy/you're good at.
Meet new people.

The list goes on. In reality, these things should be well above banging women.
 

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I think you have to explain more about your content.


Cheers!
 

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WC2 said:
Secure your future.
Do things that make you happy/you're good at.
Meet new people.

The list goes on. In reality, these things should be well above banging women.
Agreed, %100.
 

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dont be stupid..
there can never be a time when you'll be content with the number you've banged..

and you should be focussing on WC2's list WHILE you're banging these women...not after, or before. They should happen concurrently
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dont have sex to acheive a number or gain self esteem do it because you want to. oh and we need more context
 

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i'll let you know exactly how it feels...

6 months ago i actually set a goal to bang 3 girls i really wanted to have...and i actually did it...and i have nothing to show from it but the fact that i actually had sex with them

being a player is overrated i'm not going to lie....its more of an accomplishment like its good for stories when your 65 but i didn't end up keeping any of the girls....so in the end idk if it was worth it or not...lol yea it was hahaha

yea focus on the life....girls will bring u down if you let them...and usually most of the time your the reason your having so much fun with all these girls..so idk when u get your fair share just follow your dreams...you'll have something to show from it...
 

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Get a life...something you should have previously been working on, wise guy.
 

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cola said:
What's next?
Next, despite everyone having told you this for years, you accept one of life's boldest lessons on account of your own experience;

There is more to life than women. Much more.

One of the first lessons an aspiring DJ is set to learn is that women alone will never leave you truly content. I remember for so long, starting when I was in sixth grade and was just becoming interested with the opposite sex I thought that having a girlfriend/having sex with a girl was it -- The end all be all of happiness.

My freshman year of high school it happened. I had sex with a girl for the first time, and while it was nothing short of enjoyable (if brief lol), I realized that I had been cheated. This was not the earth shattering experience I had been promised. While I instantly knew that this was something I would have to try again, and could have sworn that I felt my chest hair grow that very night, on the whole I felt no different the morning after. Sure there was a little spring in my step, but it fades.

We've all seen it in the movies, in books, on tv and elsewhere. The imagery is just as much catered to men as to women. Sexuality is painted as the keystone in the archway of self-actualization. And for many, that can be true. Like most things in life, individual experiences vary - the problem comes in when men ignore other aspects of life to chase the most glamorized but least fulfilling one.

What we are left with is men whom have no idea what to do with their lives. Having achieved success sexually, and in many cases spending so much time doing so, they have forgotten that sex is just icing on the cake. It seems like we know it as children, then somewhere down the road lose sight of it. Most of us will make this discovery again.

Remember when you were a child? A woman's vajayjay was likely one of the last things on your mind. Yet most of us were happy. In fact, much happier than we are today. I know that I would have much rather played kickball or tag than hung out with a girl. I sure as hell cared a lot more about my report card.

We should take a lesson from children -- Do what makes you happy first, achieve that happiness. Women and sexuality are secondary.

I have just recently began to learn that if you do that, everything begins to fall in to place.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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magickarl said:
Remember when you were a child? A woman's vajayjay was likely one of the last things on your mind. Yet most of us were happy. In fact, much happier than we are today. I know that I would have much rather played kickball or tag than hung out with a girl. I sure as hell cared a lot more about my report card.

We should take a lesson from children -- Do what makes you happy first, achieve that happiness. Women and sexuality are secondary.
I...LIKE...THIS.

+1 rep. point
 

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Content? Is that even possible?

Honestly I have no idea where that point is even at. How do you know how much of something you need to become full if you've never had it?

Honestly I want lots of sex. I don't know with how many women, but I know I want lots of it.

I want to get to the point where I feel I don't need sex anymore and I can start focusing on the rest of my life.
 

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I was looking more to the effect of settling down finding that ever so cliche and eluse "one" girl. Is this a fairytale? Or is it really a girl out there who's going to make me want to be with her forever.. because I'm having my doubts..
 

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^

Not if you are hunting for her.

I was thinking the same thing some time back, so I consulted my grandpa whom is not only wise, but has a ****ing sweet mountain man beard.

He told me that he spent a lot of years looking for that somebody, and while he got plenty of hot WWII era tang it wasn't until he stopped looking so hard that he found her.

He got it in to his head that maybe he would never find wife material, and so he would instead just aim to have as much fun as he could dating whichever girl for however long and just seeing where it takes him. Long story short, he met my grandma shortly before leaving for the Army, served his time, and came home. They began dating and my grandpa conceded to me (while swearing me to secrecy) that at first, my grandma was just a piece of ass. He grew to like her more and more though, and she always put up with his ****. After a few years of this (and the birth of my uncle), it dawned on him that if they hadn't seriously disappointed each other yet they probably weren't going to.

So they tied the knot, and while they have had their problems, they have been for the most part happily married for 63 years.

I asked my father about his finding of my mother, and I was presented with a similar story. Except instead of a war veteran, my father sold insurance.

My pappy and grand-pappy haven't steered me wrong yet, so I'm going to believe them.
 

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What comes next? I'll tell you what comes next... you enter a vortex of constant dissatisfaction and anxiety because all the women you're screwing aren't making you happy. So what do you do? You fuck even more women, to the point where it's a daily occurrence that only sinks you deeper and deeper into an abyss of depression and detachment, until one day, while busting a load all over the face of some random woman whose name you can't even recall, you ask yourself, "am I really here? Is this my life?" And after finally realizing that fulfilling your sexual urges and aggressively fucking every woman in sight completely senseless HASN'T improved your life on any significant level, you will then modify your life goals and try to forget all the nasty truths you've learned about humans and their natural defiance, infidelity, and backstabbing behavior. But it will be in vain, as your emotional scars will not heal in time for you to regain confidence in other people's ability to love, or even care.

Good luck.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dbot said:
What comes next? I'll tell you what comes next... you enter a vortex of constant dissatisfaction and anxiety because all the women you're screwing aren't making you happy. So what do you do? You fuck even more women, to the point where it's a daily occurrence that only sinks you deeper and deeper into an abyss of depression and detachment, until one day, while busting a load all over the face of some random woman whose name you can't even recall, you ask yourself, "am I really here? Is this my life?" And after finally realizing that fulfilling your sexual urges and aggressively fucking every woman in sight completely senseless HASN'T improved your life on any significant level, you will then modify your life goals and try to forget all the nasty truths you've learned about humans and their natural defiance, infidelity, and backstabbing behavior. But it will be in vain, as your emotional scars will not heal in time for you to regain confidence in other people's ability to love, or even care.

Good luck.
So.......where do I sign up?
 

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Drewskie said:
So.......where do I sign up?
lol :crackup:

good response though dbot...i have so many things I want to do in life but my hormones are a huge distraction man.

Biggest challenge for a man is the need to reconcile his life dreams/passions with his sexual desires.
 

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lol i dont think you can ever get enough girls... its like you dont care about sex after you just did it but than next day you want to have sex anymore. I dont think that changes until you are very old..
 

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Prodigy746 said:
lol i dont think you can ever get enough girls... its like you dont care about sex after you just did it but than next day you want to have sex anymore. I dont think that changes until you are very old..
One of the oldest players I know is 70, a millionare with 28 and 34 year old girlfriends.
 

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dbot said:
What comes next? I'll tell you what comes next... you enter a vortex of constant dissatisfaction and anxiety because all the women you're screwing aren't making you happy. So what do you do? You fuck even more women, to the point where it's a daily occurrence that only sinks you deeper and deeper into an abyss of depression and detachment, until one day, while busting a load all over the face of some random woman whose name you can't even recall, you ask yourself, "am I really here? Is this my life?" And after finally realizing that fulfilling your sexual urges and aggressively fucking every woman in sight completely senseless HASN'T improved your life on any significant level, you will then modify your life goals and try to forget all the nasty truths you've learned about humans and their natural defiance, infidelity, and backstabbing behavior. But it will be in vain, as your emotional scars will not heal in time for you to regain confidence in other people's ability to love, or even care.

Good luck.
Wow, I'm going to print this up and hang it on my desk. This is just unbelievable. This is how I feel. This is poetry my friend. So true......
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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