"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SMV is unfair to men

NoLimitDJ

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Why is it that a woman's SMV is only based off her looks and age yet men's are needed to be based off much, much more?

A woman only has to look good while men have to pander to societies standards just to fall short of a woman's SMV.

Then we are told we as men must DO MORE as if it's our fault we weren't born a woman.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MatureDJ

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Because the woman has the more precious gamete. From this derives the evolutionary instinct for women to be fickle and men to be motivated to attempt to spread seed, leading to the natural state of hypergamy, which is why men have to try harder.
 

BeTheChange

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SMV IS unfair...to women.

Men have far more agency in controlling their SMV than women. If you're an ugly or old woman, you're finished as far as the game is concerned.

Thankfully man's SMV isn't primarily based on looks but things he can build and develop.
 

sosousage

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Woman is sexually attracted to man of higher SMV than she actually is. She gives sex to high quality boys for the validation. It boosts her value. Subconsciously (and possibly not only).

Men is sexually attracted to anything that he would bang. Meaning man could be 9/10 from look, but if he finds 4/10 girl cute, then he will bang her. His SMV could also be much bigger than the girl hes sleeping with. We just don't care, if it's just sex. LTR is different story.

Yeah that's not fair, but you can sleep with a lot of woman and you will be the hero, but if a girl sleeps with a lot of men, she will be the slut. Problem is not many men are that popular, they don't sleep with many girls. So they dont use their only advantage, but women still play their rules.
 

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At the end of the day, I'm quite happy with the way things are. With greater expectations, also comes more power and control IF you are willing to accept.

Another thing is, women get to do the initial choosing, but men get to determine what type of relationship ensues. I'd rather determine my own fate, than be at the mercy of a woman. One woman I made wait for 5yrs before I would agree to marry her. Another I made wait for 4yrs until she got tired of waiting and left. I'd hate for someone to make me wait 4-5yrs for something I wanted.

Just ask a bunch of women over 40 if their pu$$y is as powerful as it once was. Ask them if they feel life is fair?

Eventually every thing comes full circle in life. It all balances out. Everybody gets their day in the sun. Everybody has to pay the piper.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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