"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Camus37

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I couldn't properly date a woman who smoked. It would get on my nerves and, worse, I'd end up smoking when drunk or whatever on account of being around it.

I couldn't care less for a hookup, though. I've found that girls who smoke are often more down for hooking up on the first night. I also smoke weed occasionally and have used that many times to pull, so I can hardly judge.
 

metalwater

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against the grain, girl I spent time with before smoked often. the taste and atmosphere were a bit of a turn ON. otherwise, she was clean. in this case, the smoke added something to the situation.

yes, smoking is bad according to the surgeon general and so on. the actual effects of nicotine are positive and calming for ppl that are moody. probably partly why it is addictive, most things that make a person feel better are addictive.
 

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Smoking is on my dealbreaker list. That being said, I smoked for over 20 years, hand rollies, no filters. Quitting was one of the hardest things I ever did. I just could not leave them alone. I finally used Wellbutrin to get off them. I started again twice and finally put them down, hopefully for good eight years ago. I love, love, love nicotine and don’t ever want to be a slave to it again. Nowadays I think it stinks and don’t want to be tempted so won’t date a smoker.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Robert28

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Whether a woman smokes or not is way down on my list of deal breakers. If she has tattoos or a bastard kid(s) that’s way more of a dealbreaker than her smoking.
 

GT40

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I was a smoker years ago. So was the wife. We both quit years ago. Very gross habit and a waste of $$$
 

BadBoy89

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I agree but I also dont mind if a woman has one or two tatts as long as they arent trashy. Its pretty common for a lot of attractive women to have some type of writing tatt on their collarbone or wrist. A lot of tatts or trashy tatts are a deal breaker.

The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
Logically you are right.

I’m the other way. Tattoos turn me off but smoking, as long as she is remotely hot and fertile, is OK. As long as it’s not a pack a day.
 
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