BackInTheGame78
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Disgusting. Cannot stand the smell that lingers on them no matter how careful they are or how much they try to get rid of it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Smoking
- Thread starter cabaceira
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Camus37
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I couldn't properly date a woman who smoked. It would get on my nerves and, worse, I'd end up smoking when drunk or whatever on account of being around it.
I couldn't care less for a hookup, though. I've found that girls who smoke are often more down for hooking up on the first night. I also smoke weed occasionally and have used that many times to pull, so I can hardly judge.
I couldn't care less for a hookup, though. I've found that girls who smoke are often more down for hooking up on the first night. I also smoke weed occasionally and have used that many times to pull, so I can hardly judge.
metalwater
Master Don Juan
against the grain, girl I spent time with before smoked often. the taste and atmosphere were a bit of a turn ON. otherwise, she was clean. in this case, the smoke added something to the situation.
yes, smoking is bad according to the surgeon general and so on. the actual effects of nicotine are positive and calming for ppl that are moody. probably partly why it is addictive, most things that make a person feel better are addictive.
yes, smoking is bad according to the surgeon general and so on. the actual effects of nicotine are positive and calming for ppl that are moody. probably partly why it is addictive, most things that make a person feel better are addictive.
Sir FB
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Smoking is on my dealbreaker list. That being said, I smoked for over 20 years, hand rollies, no filters. Quitting was one of the hardest things I ever did. I just could not leave them alone. I finally used Wellbutrin to get off them. I started again twice and finally put them down, hopefully for good eight years ago. I love, love, love nicotine and don’t ever want to be a slave to it again. Nowadays I think it stinks and don’t want to be tempted so won’t date a smoker.
Grinderman
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
Not thrilled with smokers. But not a dealbreaker.
Logically you are right.
I’m the other way. Tattoos turn me off but smoking, as long as she is remotely hot and fertile, is OK. As long as it’s not a pack a day.