"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm a serious guy and hardly ever smile and I know this is holding me back. But I have to make a conscious effort to smile and that makes me feel self-conscious and uncomfortable and it feels like my smile muscles just aren't that strong. Other people just seem to go through life with a permanent smile on their face and I am envious of that and want to learn how to do that.

Are there any exercises you can do to strengthen your smile? Or is it just a case of consciously forcing yourself to smile as much as possible until it becomes automatic?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i learnt to smile at work. Cause everyone smiles at me so i forced myself to smile back.
 
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viking22 said:
I'm a serious guy and hardly ever smile and I know this is holding me back. But I have to make a conscious effort to smile and that makes me feel self-conscious and uncomfortable and it feels like my smile muscles just aren't that strong. Other people just seem to go through life with a permanent smile on their face and I am envious of that and want to learn how to do that.

Are there any exercises you can do to strengthen your smile? Or is it just a case of consciously forcing yourself to smile as much as possible until it becomes automatic?
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so when someone smiles at you...you don't smile back?
You just give them a serious stare?

Do what you must to get a smile on, it'll show that you have a fun personality and will attract people towards you.
After you shower or brush your teeth just smile to yourself in the mirror.
Some people I know force themselves to smile and it looks funny. Just see what looks good and natural.

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Smiling is VERY VERY IMPORTANT. I had a GOOD friend that would never smile. He was the nicest person i met, used to drive one girl to work every day for free. He was always easy to talk to but every one would tell me that he looks like a killer. He was always serious and the only time he would smile is when you make a really really funny joke. Girls were scared of him until they got to know him.
 
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