I've noticed that smiling while talking on the phone actually conveys that you are smiling and good-spirited in your tone. It comes of very positive and has helped me a lot in keeping things light, especially on those first few call before ive gone out with her or haven't gone out too often and she calls to talk a bit.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Smiling while talking on the phone
- Thread starter Charm
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Doggystyle
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Smiling effects your mood, which effects your voice tone which will come across over the phone. Its hard to genuinely smile and not come across as being in a good mood.
People in sales do this on the phones talking to customers
People in sales do this on the phones talking to customers
Bible_Belt
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I agree.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Funny...I just read this in "How to Win Friends and Influence People"...is that where you got it from?Charm said:
When I talk on the phone, I try to put myself in the state I was in when I last saw the girl, as if she was there with me in person.
The one thing I'm not good at on the phone is when the girl starts to put up sh!t tests or otherwise switch plans or flake at the last minute. I haven't figured out the best way to respond to that and usually end up either acquiescing just to break the silence or getting pissed off and hanging up.
squirrels,
No, I learned the importance of smiling on the phone from sales and business and seeing how much more effective it is. I have had very good mentors help me. Also, the best way to deal with a **** test or to give yourself more time at the least is to throw her question back at her.
You say: Wow, talking to you has made my day half-complete (said in a ****y tone)
Her: What, im not good enough to make it complete?
You: Ill pick you up around 730 and you can see about completing it then. OR you might say Your twice as good as I think you are.
The first respone will make plans and make her qualify herself. The second just throws her sh1t test back at her.
No, I learned the importance of smiling on the phone from sales and business and seeing how much more effective it is. I have had very good mentors help me. Also, the best way to deal with a **** test or to give yourself more time at the least is to throw her question back at her.
You say: Wow, talking to you has made my day half-complete (said in a ****y tone)
Her: What, im not good enough to make it complete?
You: Ill pick you up around 730 and you can see about completing it then. OR you might say Your twice as good as I think you are.
The first respone will make plans and make her qualify herself. The second just throws her sh1t test back at her.