"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Smart vs casual

rhythmic

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So I'm going to a bar/club tonight, sort of a rock venue, with some work friends. In the hotel now having a sneaky G&T and pondering...

Do I rock up in my suit from work, or my black jeans and vest?

What do you guys think either of these sets of attire says to women?

I know, I know, "whatever you're comfortable in" but honestly, I feel equally comfortable in either. I like wearing suits or dressing casual.

What are your experiences with either dress style?

Bearing in mind the norm is very much going to be jeans and t-shirt, with the odd person wearing a shirt.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sylvester the cat

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would you wear black jeans and vest to a business meeting?
 

rhythmic

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Certainly not, but I very much doubt anyone else will be wearing a suit or even work clothes here. I'm leaning towards the suit to be honest, but I know I'll be the only person in there wearing a suit. Which is fine, just looking for your experiences in how people perceive you; DO clothes make the man?
 

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rhythmic said:
Certainly not, but I very much doubt anyone else will be wearing a suit or even work clothes here. I'm leaning towards the suit to be honest, but I know I'll be the only person in there wearing a suit. Which is fine, just looking for your experiences in how people perceive you; DO clothes make the man?
well my point was, when in rome, do as the romans do. ie - dress accordingly.

however, wearing a suit in such a situation might be to your advantage as you would certainly stand out. so go with the suit.

bankers are the new rock stars anyway. you see wolf of wall street?
 

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I dunno, the suit could come off as trying to hard.. Unless you make it look like you just left work by pulling the tie loose and unbuttoning some buttons.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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El Payaso

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Go causal.
 
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