"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Smart vs casual

rhythmic

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So I'm going to a bar/club tonight, sort of a rock venue, with some work friends. In the hotel now having a sneaky G&T and pondering...

Do I rock up in my suit from work, or my black jeans and vest?

What do you guys think either of these sets of attire says to women?

I know, I know, "whatever you're comfortable in" but honestly, I feel equally comfortable in either. I like wearing suits or dressing casual.

What are your experiences with either dress style?

Bearing in mind the norm is very much going to be jeans and t-shirt, with the odd person wearing a shirt.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sylvester the cat

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would you wear black jeans and vest to a business meeting?
 

rhythmic

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Certainly not, but I very much doubt anyone else will be wearing a suit or even work clothes here. I'm leaning towards the suit to be honest, but I know I'll be the only person in there wearing a suit. Which is fine, just looking for your experiences in how people perceive you; DO clothes make the man?
 

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rhythmic said:
Certainly not, but I very much doubt anyone else will be wearing a suit or even work clothes here. I'm leaning towards the suit to be honest, but I know I'll be the only person in there wearing a suit. Which is fine, just looking for your experiences in how people perceive you; DO clothes make the man?
well my point was, when in rome, do as the romans do. ie - dress accordingly.

however, wearing a suit in such a situation might be to your advantage as you would certainly stand out. so go with the suit.

bankers are the new rock stars anyway. you see wolf of wall street?
 

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I dunno, the suit could come off as trying to hard.. Unless you make it look like you just left work by pulling the tie loose and unbuttoning some buttons.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Go causal.
 
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