"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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small town problem

MacAvoy

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I live in a small town in Northern Ontario where everyone knows everyone. I have lived her for about 7 years and have run through the available women once or twice already. My question is, how do I proceed to finding potential LTR material.

The nearest urban centre is 2 hours away. I do make regular trips out of town, however I own 2 businesses and just took a full-time contract to turn around another company.

I had a lady from out of town that I was dating for a while but I would not commit to her and once she found out I was sleeping with other women she put me in the friend zone so I next'd her.

Any advice or suggestions. Secondly, since reading the bible, I am able to do cold approaches and improve my game, but I have to be in "pick up" mode in order to do so and it is not a natural part of my thinking yet, so when I am on trips, business often comes first.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slickster

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I've experienced the small town thing more than once. You feel like there aren't any options at all.

Don't be too quick to think that though. Sometimes women just come out of the woodwork. For example a good friend of mine who lives in a small town has been eternally single and always complained about the lack of women around.

Turns out he just met a 28 yr. old blonde school teacher with incredible everything (face, body, personality). She's an amazing athlete much like him. To top it off she does massage therapy in her spare time. Lucky f*cker. :)

She had been living in the same small town for over a year before he met her.

If your situation is really bad though you'll have to move or import.
Spend more time in the nearest city. Go for weekends etc. Make some connections and see where they go.
 

Ol'BlueEyes

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same boat

Same here...limited dating pool, same three or four places to go to meet women.
Only thing I can say is that sure, there may be less women, but they have the same problem with guys, so there's a high turnover rate. A chick who's attached now may not be attached a month or so from now.
 

smooth666

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Well if you own 2 businesses... What about getting new female ;) co-workers or interns (do ads in the big newspapers if you can afford it or via internet).

?
cheers
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DoubleA

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Man that sucks. You can always move...
 

Ol'BlueEyes

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Skel

Internet ads aren't much of an improvement, Skel. You gotta travel a bit to date decent women. Try this:
punch in 15906 (my zip code) into any dating site's search engine. Now set the radius for 10 miles. There's not much to choose from.
 

ArmondTamzarian

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I have you all beat

Try entering in my zip 33043 then use a 35 mile radius!

Yup 1/3 as many as the previous post!
 
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