"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Small talk to something greater at parties.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
If you want to befriend someone, start treating them as a friend, instead of as a stranger. Be more honest and let down your mask a little bit. Joke around. Trust that they like you.
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Exactly. One way that I get to setting up "hang out" dates is mentioning a good restaurant, and then telling the other people "We should totally go sometime this week!" Exchange numbers and then pull through with the plan if you're really down to networking.Isko said:In a way, you never do. There's no magic lightbulb that flashes when you become friends with someone. You just find yourself talking to them a bit more, and them talking to you more, and the conversation getting more interesting, and one of you might invite the other someplace or start doing things friends do.
If you want to befriend someone, start treating them as a friend, instead of as a stranger. Be more honest and let down your mask a little bit. Joke around. Trust that they like you.
This is my first time at really trying to develop a social life. I've proven to myself that people do like me and I can make friends.
I really would like to have a girlfriend (since I never been in a relationship before). I know girls are big on meeting guys through friends and at parties, so this is the perfect opportunity to meet girls outside of bars/clubs and the internet.
Anybody have tips on how I can chat up a girl at a party and have it lead to something? (preferably a relationship) How do I keep talking to her and not let her slip out without me ever seeing her again?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
> Open with opener, small talk for <1-2 minutes.
> Tease, something situational, her dress, her hair, something she says, give her a stupid nickname etc.
> Needs to be a sexual/romantic shift in conversation. A sexual tease, CF comment or if getting solid IOI's maybe a push/pull compliment. Needs to be situational and backhanded so as not to be creepy.
If all goes well at this point, after a few minutes of talking, isolate. 'Hey come over here lets sit down', grab her hand/ass/hip/back for kino overkill.
If still going well, then you're in. Kiss close.
That was kinda how I was thinking. I didn't know small talk was for such a period of time. Sometimes I think I spend way too much time trying to gain rapport.Ease said:Id probably do something like:
> Open with opener, small talk for <1-2 minutes.
> Tease, something situational, her dress, her hair, something she says, give her a stupid nickname etc.
> Needs to be a sexual/romantic shift in conversation. A sexual tease, CF comment or if getting solid IOI's maybe a push/pull compliment. Needs to be situational and backhanded so as not to be creepy.
If all goes well at this point, after a few minutes of talking, isolate. 'Hey come over here lets sit down', grab her hand/ass/hip/back for kino overkill.
If still going well, then you're in. Kiss close.