"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Small talk to something greater at parties.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you want to befriend someone, start treating them as a friend, instead of as a stranger. Be more honest and let down your mask a little bit. Joke around. Trust that they like you.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Exactly. One way that I get to setting up "hang out" dates is mentioning a good restaurant, and then telling the other people "We should totally go sometime this week!" Exchange numbers and then pull through with the plan if you're really down to networking.Isko said:In a way, you never do. There's no magic lightbulb that flashes when you become friends with someone. You just find yourself talking to them a bit more, and them talking to you more, and the conversation getting more interesting, and one of you might invite the other someplace or start doing things friends do.
If you want to befriend someone, start treating them as a friend, instead of as a stranger. Be more honest and let down your mask a little bit. Joke around. Trust that they like you.
This is my first time at really trying to develop a social life. I've proven to myself that people do like me and I can make friends.
I really would like to have a girlfriend (since I never been in a relationship before). I know girls are big on meeting guys through friends and at parties, so this is the perfect opportunity to meet girls outside of bars/clubs and the internet.
Anybody have tips on how I can chat up a girl at a party and have it lead to something? (preferably a relationship) How do I keep talking to her and not let her slip out without me ever seeing her again?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
> Open with opener, small talk for <1-2 minutes.
> Tease, something situational, her dress, her hair, something she says, give her a stupid nickname etc.
> Needs to be a sexual/romantic shift in conversation. A sexual tease, CF comment or if getting solid IOI's maybe a push/pull compliment. Needs to be situational and backhanded so as not to be creepy.
If all goes well at this point, after a few minutes of talking, isolate. 'Hey come over here lets sit down', grab her hand/ass/hip/back for kino overkill.
If still going well, then you're in. Kiss close.
That was kinda how I was thinking. I didn't know small talk was for such a period of time. Sometimes I think I spend way too much time trying to gain rapport.Ease said:Id probably do something like:
> Open with opener, small talk for <1-2 minutes.
> Tease, something situational, her dress, her hair, something she says, give her a stupid nickname etc.
> Needs to be a sexual/romantic shift in conversation. A sexual tease, CF comment or if getting solid IOI's maybe a push/pull compliment. Needs to be situational and backhanded so as not to be creepy.
If all goes well at this point, after a few minutes of talking, isolate. 'Hey come over here lets sit down', grab her hand/ass/hip/back for kino overkill.
If still going well, then you're in. Kiss close.