Small Talk - the biggest hurdle to jump

[johnballantine02]

Small talk. I think this is a huge obstacle in the path to my success.

I just can't do it. It takes so much effort and strength. I know there are tons of guys out there that don't understand where guys like me are coming from.

It's hard to put it into words, but going up to a complete stranger and talking to them about some boring bull**** and going on and on is really just stupid to me. It's akward, it's lame and it just isn't me.

I can never think of anything poignant to say. Something that really gives a reason for me talking to someone else.


That being said I do workout and I'm in great shape and I am focused on school right now and my life.......but still no girlfriend.


Uhh....Help Please.
Thanks

 

[LucidDreamer]

Pick up Larry King's book on conversation, there was a thread on it at one point, look it up. I actually picked up an ebook on convo last week and it's been helpful.

things like understanding the dynamics of conversation and asking questions -- like asking a close ended question and following up with an open ended question, listening actively and using "free information" to delve deeper into the convo.

 

[Wiesman44]

http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/

read and learn. Tells you everything u need to know about conversations. Pay special attention to patterning.

 

[johnballantine02]

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