I have been hang slow results on POF, I checked the feature where its says read and several of my messages that i sent have been deleted. I've tried snark alecky responses that somewhat work for me in real ice, but for some reason it rarely in the initial message. could this be more of a profile problem or should i be playing the get to know you card for better results on pof?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
slow results on POF
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
No.Danny
Master Don Juan
Pof is all about profile pictures or so they say
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No harm in getting to know a woman on POF. They like it, try to have edge in your conversations though & I would say 8 messages from you to her is enough.
Read up Naughty Ninjas posts on this forum. His posts about POF helped me a lot.
Sometimes I just open with "Hi Sarah
whats up?" then I add a made up story i.e Am working with two Scottish blokes & one of them keeps SHOUTING at me. I cannot understand one word either of them are saying.
Another tip is mention something in her profile or pics.
Read up Naughty Ninjas posts on this forum. His posts about POF helped me a lot.
Sometimes I just open with "Hi Sarah
whats up?" then I add a made up story i.e Am working with two Scottish blokes & one of them keeps SHOUTING at me. I cannot understand one word either of them are saying.Another tip is mention something in her profile or pics.
hey boss, it might not be anything wrong you're doing at all, free dating sites have a ton of fake profiles to appear to have more women on the site, more guys sign up for those sites than girls, they need to appear to have more women so guys keep using the site so they make money off of it.
was looking at another site where guys got scammed by upgrading their accounts for nothing, the site would send them a lot of "likes" or "someone wants to meet you", in order to see them, get more exposure, or to see if the message was read they told them to upgrade, so they did, when they did the girls who liked them and wanted to meet them never replied to their messages, the accounts were deleted, then new ones sent more, the same thing happened, they were scammed.
if you're getting some good looking women who write you back, then you are doing good, if not then you need to change things up.
most guys try to be too ****y & funny, that gets old when chicks are getting 100's of the same type of messages, some girls like that and some don't, read the profile to see what kind of personality she has, if she is sarcastic then it wil work, if not then you have to go with a normal greeting commenting on one of her pics, not every chick is the same, so dont write the same to each one.
was looking at another site where guys got scammed by upgrading their accounts for nothing, the site would send them a lot of "likes" or "someone wants to meet you", in order to see them, get more exposure, or to see if the message was read they told them to upgrade, so they did, when they did the girls who liked them and wanted to meet them never replied to their messages, the accounts were deleted, then new ones sent more, the same thing happened, they were scammed.
if you're getting some good looking women who write you back, then you are doing good, if not then you need to change things up.
most guys try to be too ****y & funny, that gets old when chicks are getting 100's of the same type of messages, some girls like that and some don't, read the profile to see what kind of personality she has, if she is sarcastic then it wil work, if not then you have to go with a normal greeting commenting on one of her pics, not every chick is the same, so dont write the same to each one.
POF is dead right now man. Not sure why, summer it's usually poppin'. And I send out thousands of messages. I don't give a sh8t if the chicks read 'em or not. Cut and paste motherf*cker, move on to the next profile. You should send so many that the faces of the women are a blur and you can't remember one of them.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.