The title says it all. Im in university and slept with a girl thinking that it would just be casual sex, now she wants a relationship. Id rather keep practicing my DJ skills cause quite frankly this Forum works ( as you all know) and I dont want to ruin a good thing right now. Any advice?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Slept with a girl...now she wants a relationship.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
beastmaster79
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depends on how hot she is. keep ****ing her until you find something better.
YoungSir4sho
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I never understood this by some of u. Man just say yea.
Y all of u act like its life or death to get into a relationship? Its not like it is marriage.
So basically if a girl wants a relationship n she looks good n u like her but not in a relationship type of way. N say no. Then she doesn't wanna mess wit u nomore.
So I say just yea, don't get no emotions to it n if u 1day do???? Guess wat??? U will remember that u 2 are in a relationship so u don't have to worry bout tryin to get wit her
Y all of u act like its life or death to get into a relationship? Its not like it is marriage.
So basically if a girl wants a relationship n she looks good n u like her but not in a relationship type of way. N say no. Then she doesn't wanna mess wit u nomore.
So I say just yea, don't get no emotions to it n if u 1day do???? Guess wat??? U will remember that u 2 are in a relationship so u don't have to worry bout tryin to get wit her
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Infamous_Wolf
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That's called the bait and switch my friend. bait with sex, switch with relationship. Women seem to have to always be in a relationship with somebody to feel good about themselves. So they find a guy they like, let them in to their pants, then try to weasel their way in to keeping you for themselves. I would reply with something along the lines of
"I don't get in relationships with anybody I haven't known for XX months. I don't really know who you are and I'm not going to just dive blindly into a relationship like that. How do you think so many relationships end up failing miserably?"
If she counters with the "Well what about the sex? Didn't that mean anything to you?" or something similar, you need to counter with something like
"Well, no, actually. I don't put an emotional importance on sex. Sex is fun, something I enjoy, but I don't get emotionally involved just because I'm having sex. If I did that I just end up hurting myself over and over again, that's not very intelligent now is it?"
You can change up the words or however you like, but the fact is sex does not equal relationship. trust equals relationship. and if you don't know a person, there should be no reason why you would feel the need to trust them with your heart. remember to always protect your heart.
"I don't get in relationships with anybody I haven't known for XX months. I don't really know who you are and I'm not going to just dive blindly into a relationship like that. How do you think so many relationships end up failing miserably?"
If she counters with the "Well what about the sex? Didn't that mean anything to you?" or something similar, you need to counter with something like
"Well, no, actually. I don't put an emotional importance on sex. Sex is fun, something I enjoy, but I don't get emotionally involved just because I'm having sex. If I did that I just end up hurting myself over and over again, that's not very intelligent now is it?"
You can change up the words or however you like, but the fact is sex does not equal relationship. trust equals relationship. and if you don't know a person, there should be no reason why you would feel the need to trust them with your heart. remember to always protect your heart.
suavesuave
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just say u r not ready.
guywhoneedshelp
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Just tell her you're not ready for that. "I don't want to ruin what we have"
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
daring wraith
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OOHH!! What a tangled web we weave.mtlwlu said:
I would tell her that i've only been a few relationships, all which have been long term. I would then say i'd like to take things slowly. If you do this right, i.e. keep her confused so she never knows where she is in the relationship, but is reletively happy, you will "bank" her. Then its just up to you to keep it going.
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Give her the relationship lines as above, sy you want to take things slowly.... but take things so slowly she gives up on you and you can go about being as normal.
Good luck,
GaryUranga
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tell her youre gay then move to another city
Ask her straight out if she wants out of the relationship. It's a "yes" or "no" answer. If it's no, then tell her exactly what you want from this relationship. If it's yes, let her go. You deserve to be in a relationship with mutual love and respect...everyone does. It sounds like you love her very much. Whatever her answer is, don't fret. Things will work out for you. Good luck and take care!
guywhoneedshelp
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Are you posting in the right thread?procanto said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GaryUranga
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im not even sure if its even the right forum
ARrocket
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hahaha :crackup:GaryUranga said:
DonGorgon
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SHE DOES NOT want a relationship ... she wants a chance to beat you at the game you just won... dont do it...
Maximus Rex
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Tell her the truth, that your not really for a relationship. If a relationship is what she wants, then she needs to find somebody who can give her that.
One of two things will happen:
1) She'll leave you alone.
2) She'll continue with the status quo. Either way, you come out the winner because she knows where she stands with you and the status of your relationship.
One of two things will happen:
1) She'll leave you alone.
2) She'll continue with the status quo. Either way, you come out the winner because she knows where she stands with you and the status of your relationship.
KontrollerX
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Agree with Desdinova.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.