The title says it all. Im in university and slept with a girl thinking that it would just be casual sex, now she wants a relationship. Id rather keep practicing my DJ skills cause quite frankly this Forum works ( as you all know) and I dont want to ruin a good thing right now. Any advice?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Slept with a girl...now she wants a relationship.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
beastmaster79
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depends on how hot she is. keep ****ing her until you find something better.
YoungSir4sho
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I never understood this by some of u. Man just say yea.
Y all of u act like its life or death to get into a relationship? Its not like it is marriage.
So basically if a girl wants a relationship n she looks good n u like her but not in a relationship type of way. N say no. Then she doesn't wanna mess wit u nomore.
So I say just yea, don't get no emotions to it n if u 1day do???? Guess wat??? U will remember that u 2 are in a relationship so u don't have to worry bout tryin to get wit her
Y all of u act like its life or death to get into a relationship? Its not like it is marriage.
So basically if a girl wants a relationship n she looks good n u like her but not in a relationship type of way. N say no. Then she doesn't wanna mess wit u nomore.
So I say just yea, don't get no emotions to it n if u 1day do???? Guess wat??? U will remember that u 2 are in a relationship so u don't have to worry bout tryin to get wit her
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Infamous_Wolf
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That's called the bait and switch my friend. bait with sex, switch with relationship. Women seem to have to always be in a relationship with somebody to feel good about themselves. So they find a guy they like, let them in to their pants, then try to weasel their way in to keeping you for themselves. I would reply with something along the lines of
"I don't get in relationships with anybody I haven't known for XX months. I don't really know who you are and I'm not going to just dive blindly into a relationship like that. How do you think so many relationships end up failing miserably?"
If she counters with the "Well what about the sex? Didn't that mean anything to you?" or something similar, you need to counter with something like
"Well, no, actually. I don't put an emotional importance on sex. Sex is fun, something I enjoy, but I don't get emotionally involved just because I'm having sex. If I did that I just end up hurting myself over and over again, that's not very intelligent now is it?"
You can change up the words or however you like, but the fact is sex does not equal relationship. trust equals relationship. and if you don't know a person, there should be no reason why you would feel the need to trust them with your heart. remember to always protect your heart.
"I don't get in relationships with anybody I haven't known for XX months. I don't really know who you are and I'm not going to just dive blindly into a relationship like that. How do you think so many relationships end up failing miserably?"
If she counters with the "Well what about the sex? Didn't that mean anything to you?" or something similar, you need to counter with something like
"Well, no, actually. I don't put an emotional importance on sex. Sex is fun, something I enjoy, but I don't get emotionally involved just because I'm having sex. If I did that I just end up hurting myself over and over again, that's not very intelligent now is it?"
You can change up the words or however you like, but the fact is sex does not equal relationship. trust equals relationship. and if you don't know a person, there should be no reason why you would feel the need to trust them with your heart. remember to always protect your heart.
suavesuave
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just say u r not ready.
guywhoneedshelp
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Just tell her you're not ready for that. "I don't want to ruin what we have"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
daring wraith
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OOHH!! What a tangled web we weave.mtlwlu said:
I would tell her that i've only been a few relationships, all which have been long term. I would then say i'd like to take things slowly. If you do this right, i.e. keep her confused so she never knows where she is in the relationship, but is reletively happy, you will "bank" her. Then its just up to you to keep it going.
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Give her the relationship lines as above, sy you want to take things slowly.... but take things so slowly she gives up on you and you can go about being as normal.
Good luck,
GaryUranga
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tell her youre gay then move to another city
Ask her straight out if she wants out of the relationship. It's a "yes" or "no" answer. If it's no, then tell her exactly what you want from this relationship. If it's yes, let her go. You deserve to be in a relationship with mutual love and respect...everyone does. It sounds like you love her very much. Whatever her answer is, don't fret. Things will work out for you. Good luck and take care!
guywhoneedshelp
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Are you posting in the right thread?procanto said:
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
GaryUranga
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im not even sure if its even the right forum
ARrocket
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hahaha :crackup:GaryUranga said:
DonGorgon
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SHE DOES NOT want a relationship ... she wants a chance to beat you at the game you just won... dont do it...
Maximus Rex
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Tell her the truth, that your not really for a relationship. If a relationship is what she wants, then she needs to find somebody who can give her that.
One of two things will happen:
1) She'll leave you alone.
2) She'll continue with the status quo. Either way, you come out the winner because she knows where she stands with you and the status of your relationship.
One of two things will happen:
1) She'll leave you alone.
2) She'll continue with the status quo. Either way, you come out the winner because she knows where she stands with you and the status of your relationship.
KontrollerX
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Agree with Desdinova.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.