You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It depends on the girl... But if she took it the wrong way, you could get arrested..ElStud said:If you tap a girls ass playfully, it is not harassment.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's it.sexybeast said:This thread is funny. Like Elstud said, guys are taking the whole thing TOO seriously. No one is saying "run around slapping random girls arses" - thats asking for trouble. If you gona do it use ya fvckin brains, and calibrate the situation b4 you do it. make sure its with a cheeky smile.
Evertime I have either slaped, spanked, touched, pinched a random girls arse THEY LOVED IT. I'm finished with this thread you guys are shocking.
LOL Where you from? Cant be NYC, you'd be behind bars.Girls ACT like they don't like being touched by random strangers but TRUUUUUUST me deep down they love it I mean who doesn't...? Plus I usually always end up sexing them too because they see how much of a man I am and that's when I REALLY beat them down, you know while I'm hittin it doggy-style I just punch them in the face a couple of times etc etc etc because by then I've usually slapped them around enough for it to lose it's essence. Well you know how it is...PIMP!!!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.