"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Situation with a girl - what do you read in this?

zepo2.0

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Hello,

this situation is not recent but recently I've reconnected with the girl so I would like to know what the heck it meant.

We were in the same high scholl and shared a class in the last year. Also we took the same train when comming back in a given weekday, so we ended up talking to each other on a regular basis.

Crazy stuff:
* We gave hands in the middle of the street once
* In the train we "enlaced" our legs once

Also, she complimented my looks once and recommended that I didn't cut my beard (goatie) so I wouldn't look like a kid.

At the time she had a boyfriend.
In a group situation, in the train, with me, another girl and another guy, she told us that she had cheated on her boyfriend with 2 other guys - she even said she didn't do nothing with one of them because he only wanted sex.

Some time later she said they had broken up - I probably should have moved there but the big wuss in me took charge.

Some time after scholl ended she calls me, we talk for a while and she says she comes by my neighbourhood every work day. Then I asked if she wanted to meet one of those days. She said yes and then we agreed that I would call her during the work days to set something up.

I called her like 3 or 4 days after to set something and she says something like this: "I'm sorry, I cannot meet you because I'm with X". I say something in the lines of "ok, no problem" but I didn't like that. So she and ehr boyfriend were together again and I didn't call back.

We kinda lost contact there until she called me once saying she was in the same UNI as me and I was kinda cold with her (yeah that **** she did pissed me). She then sent a short textual message saying I was too cold to her and whatnot. I just called her about a month later to easy things up and we didn't talk for a lot of time.

We have talked for a couple of times recently.

What do you guys think of all this? The whole "contact" thing confused me because we were not closed friends - at least I think we were not :).

Also the telling she had cheated in that group situation is kinda weird. If a girl shares that with a guy does that put him in the friend zone?

Thanks for your thougths.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nothing in what you just shared with us suggests anything really positive about her. i would NEXT her if i were you
 

zepo2.0

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Originally posted by vazeh
nothing in what you just shared with us suggests anything really positive about her. i would NEXT her if i were you
I just felt a decent connection back then. We got along really well dispite not being really close/long time friends.

Of course the "cheated on her bf" story gives bad vibes.
 

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ehh...a cheater...:(

You Ask: "What do you guys think of all this? The whole "contact" thing confused me because we were not closed friends - at least I think we were not ."

You coming in and out with contact with her suggests nothing. It's nothing out of the ordinary except that she has another friend.

You Ask: "Also the telling she had cheated in that group situation is kinda weird. If a girl shares that with a guy does that put him in the friend zone?"

You are in the friend zone, for a long long long time. The fact that you dropped out of contact might have caused a little thought about you, but there's still no attraction, no ...anything really, except friends.

Take and learn.
 

zepo2.0

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Originally posted by Docs
ehh...a cheater...:(

You Ask: "What do you guys think of all this? The whole "contact" thing confused me because we were not closed friends - at least I think we were not ."

You coming in and out with contact with her suggests nothing. It's nothing out of the ordinary except that she has another friend.
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Thanks for your comments so far.

This low experience with girls leads to not knowing howto read contact. I can go with friends holding hands. Now the leg enlacing thing... :eek:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JH6

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personally i'd hangout to nail her but not date her.

Shes not gf material, but if shes cute then nail her.
 
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