"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Situation at work.

Fixmylife

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Ok there is a girl at work that I am really into right now. My problem is that it appears that the other guy at work is into her, and all of the girls at work say that's the case. Apparently they text each other all the time, and while everybody is sitting at lunch. (Don't know how important that is, I just think it's weird". I haven't been much further with her than the occasional text conversation. She also agreed to go to a store with me, but I haven't talked to her about it since last wednesday. She is on vacation right now, and goes back to school soon. I want to take it further, like do something with her before she leaves and keep in touch, visit her at school and hang out when she comes down, you know all that stuff. I am going back to school around here, so I will have more opportunities to meet new girls, but right now I admit a case of oneitis. I am just afraid that her and the other dude are into eachother, even though they are keeping it from everyone else. I just need some solid advice. I am getting depressed and desperate, and am afraid I will do some big afc thing to screw it up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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are there ANY hints that she is even interested in you?

it sounds like you are not even close to any type of consideration from this chick.

it's like you are asking for someone to turn water into wine.

there are absolutely zero signs that she is interested in you, but yet you have oneitis and want to take this further?

you can either move on, or pull an AFCish move, get rejected and then move on.
 

Fixmylife

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Oh sorry I left that part out. Heavy eye contact and some of the things she says, way she acts. It is possible she is just like that, but my friends say there is a good chance based one what I've told them. Could just be looking for stuff though.
 
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Why don't you find out?

Ask her if she wants come out for a coffee and a chat sometime?

This way it is not a date, it's just a gathering of two work colleagues, and you can determine whether or not she is interested this way.

Just a thought.
 
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