"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sitting at a bar right now

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Making a commitment to appear socially normal.

Struck me how OFFENSIVE/inappropriate/rude it is to only want a girl for a hole in her body. This is what I've been getting used to with just escorts and Seeking Arrangement.

Idk if I'm on the right track here.

Btw, I really don't think looks are my problem. That's something that occurred to me when I went downtown last week.

I should just try talking about myself. I think I'm a pretty interesting guy. Definitely intelligent. If these girls blame me for fvcking hookers then oh well.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Remembering a line from The Mystery Method saying how girls screen out guys who have a "dubious intent." (among other reasons).

There's basically 2 sides of the fence. Which are you on? Do you wish people well or harm?
 

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That's it buddy, keep drinking. In 20 min start talking to real women and report back.
 
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A lot of the guys I see with girls are like those hipster/millennial/metropolitan/kinda queer looking type. I don't get it.

They remind me of the guy Harvey Danger who sang that one song.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Oh yea, also...

I'm SCARY. No matter how much I try to hide it, the psycho will come out at some point. Makes it difficult to form a LTR, if not impossible.

I'm quite combative in a domestic situation.
 
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Obvious stuff....

Just from sitting at a REAL PLACE....

OLD is a waste of time. What kind of girl would be on there? For rizzle.
 

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Oh yea, also...

I'm SCARY. No matter how much I try to hide it, the psycho will come out at some point. Makes it difficult to form a LTR, if not impossible.

I'm quite combative in a domestic situation.
Richard your Killin me
 
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I read one of your posts recently about how you went to a bar and started badmouthing the guy who was picking up trash.

I knew from then that I shouldn't listen to anything you say.

This is an example of terrible social skills from a forum of people who tell me mine are terrible.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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OLD is a waste of time. What kind of girl would be on there? For rizzle.
There are not many quality women on OLD but they do exist on there. I met my partner on there (but that's bias so let's ignore that). But four of my close friends met fvcking awesome women on Tinder. If you know how to screen and don't mind wasting the time, OLD can yield results.

Remembering a line from The Mystery Method saying how girls screen out guys who have a "dubious intent." (among other reasons).

There's basically 2 sides of the fence. Which are you on? Do you wish people well or harm?
I actually agree with this. I tend to go into approaches with zero intent. I never chat to a woman for any other reason that to have some fun or interesting conversation. If she seems worth pursuing after five or ten minutes then I'll change gears to be a bit more flirty but still keeping it fun.

Maybe you could try just having fun talking to people?
 

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Come on Richard, show the world that SoSuave Forum has contributed to this society!

Check back with us after getting out of bar.
 

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I'm just treading water until I get my Lambo with personalized license plate LAMBO69.
Getting a lambo isn't going to drastically change your life. It will impress men more than women, by the way.

Why not enjoy your life now? Just meet some people! It doesn't even need to be women. The more fun and social you are, the more comfortable you'll be around women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It will impress men more than women
I disagree.

What you people don't realize is that I used to be very socially popular and have a million friends with my phone ringing 100 times/day before I got arrested.

I've been there and done that. Think about it... What kind of "cred" could being in prison for 4 years earn me with other guys if I really cared. I'd rather keep it a secret.
 

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What you people don't realize is that I used to be very socially popular and have a million friends with my phone ringing 100 times/day
So what happened? Are you saying you choose not to be now?
 
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So what happened? Are you saying you choose not to be now?
I went to prison for 4 years.

There's a line between what matters and what doesn't, and "friendships" with other males does not.

Think about standing in front of a judge and hoping he only gives you a few years instead of 25. Think about how serious that is.

Now think about how all of that is just games compared to when I broke my neck when I was younger.

Now think how unimportant your "friends" seem.
 

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going to prison is low quality tho
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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