My sister is getting married soon. She is in the final stages of the wedding planning. She and her friends are ecstatic. They take enormous joy planning the smallest details such as the color of the table settings. I will never understand how they can get so much joy from this seemingly stressful event. It is beyond my comprehension. I guess this is how they look at men when we are watching sports. Marriage for a women is like winning the Superbowl for a man. They are so proud that they got a simp to validate thier femininity by marrying them. How is that an accomplishment though?? I will never understand the female brain. Everything they do is for societal validation. Most of them hate being a wife but crave the wedding. Smh
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Weddings are a brag fest. There's nothing women like more than being the centre of attention whilst wasting large amounts of someone else's money.
It’s not about the husband/man in the way we tend to think. It’s basically a female social/societal achievement level celebration with possible display of family wealth status thrown in.
Imagine very young girls having a pretend tea party with their female friends invited and the shared social validation. Now multiply the prep time and the events female emotional impact level by 1000%…
Same game, bigger stakes…
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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It's like when a fisherman catches a big fish. They always want to take a photo and they put a picture of them holding the poor fish up on the wall. When you get married as a man, you're the fish.
Yes I really like the guy too. And he is so in love. But hey who knows...they could make it. Odds are agains them but you never know. I hope they do last.All good points above.
I feel sorry for the sucker...
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The tea party analogy is a good way of putting it. These tea parties are so expensive. All for vanity too. I think my father is footing much of the bill. I dont even want to how much it cost. That 15-20k could easily be spent on a down payment on a small house.
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Everyone makes it... for a while. But unless he and his wife are at the same economic level (and she doesn't quit her job at some point), it's likely to end up costing him a fortune in the end.
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Seems accurate.
I wouldn't say women hate being a wife. I think they like the initial stages. They eventually grow bored with it for numerous reasons.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I dread the days I may have to help plan a wedding, even if small. Figuring out every last detail and paying an arm and a leg to be the center of attention for an event that half the people you invite probably couldn't care less. Then for all you know you or your wife will wake up with the flu the morning of. Entire thing gives me anxiety just thinking about it.
That makes sense. I think you are right unfortunately.
Haha exactly. I dont know how anyone can find it enjoyable.
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I've been to one wedding. Best steak I've ever had, I can taste it now. I was the only one to choose the meat menu, everyone else chose the fish menu, some got sick.
Best part was, when the wedding was over I went home and was still single.
Best part was, when the wedding was over I went home and was still single.
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Using your analogy, it's like winning the Super Bowl. Think about what a Super Bowl victory is for a second. Objectively, it is an entirely meaningless event. It does not make the city where the winning team is based a better place to live or improve the lives of its citizens in any way. It feels good a for a couple of days and then the high is gone. Same thing with marriage.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
meh you could help rein your sister but good luck with that
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Most women are about checking items off the list of things that "You're supposed to do". Societal validation is paramount in the female survival strategy since they depend on society more than men do.
The level of extravagance that some women go to for weddings is a huge red flag tho. spending $5k+ on a ring and then $30k+ on a party are completely unnecessary and if a woman were ever to ask for those things from me, I would kick her to the curb for being wasteful.
The level of extravagance that some women go to for weddings is a huge red flag tho. spending $5k+ on a ring and then $30k+ on a party are completely unnecessary and if a woman were ever to ask for those things from me, I would kick her to the curb for being wasteful.
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