My sister is getting married soon. She is in the final stages of the wedding planning. She and her friends are ecstatic. They take enormous joy planning the smallest details such as the color of the table settings. I will never understand how they can get so much joy from this seemingly stressful event. It is beyond my comprehension. I guess this is how they look at men when we are watching sports. Marriage for a women is like winning the Superbowl for a man. They are so proud that they got a simp to validate thier femininity by marrying them. How is that an accomplishment though?? I will never understand the female brain. Everything they do is for societal validation. Most of them hate being a wife but crave the wedding. Smh
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Weddings are a brag fest. There's nothing women like more than being the centre of attention whilst wasting large amounts of someone else's money.
It’s not about the husband/man in the way we tend to think. It’s basically a female social/societal achievement level celebration with possible display of family wealth status thrown in.
Imagine very young girls having a pretend tea party with their female friends invited and the shared social validation. Now multiply the prep time and the events female emotional impact level by 1000%…
Same game, bigger stakes…
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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It's like when a fisherman catches a big fish. They always want to take a photo and they put a picture of them holding the poor fish up on the wall. When you get married as a man, you're the fish.
Yes I really like the guy too. And he is so in love. But hey who knows...they could make it. Odds are agains them but you never know. I hope they do last.All good points above.
I feel sorry for the sucker...
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The tea party analogy is a good way of putting it. These tea parties are so expensive. All for vanity too. I think my father is footing much of the bill. I dont even want to how much it cost. That 15-20k could easily be spent on a down payment on a small house.
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Everyone makes it... for a while. But unless he and his wife are at the same economic level (and she doesn't quit her job at some point), it's likely to end up costing him a fortune in the end.
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Seems accurate.
I wouldn't say women hate being a wife. I think they like the initial stages. They eventually grow bored with it for numerous reasons.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I dread the days I may have to help plan a wedding, even if small. Figuring out every last detail and paying an arm and a leg to be the center of attention for an event that half the people you invite probably couldn't care less. Then for all you know you or your wife will wake up with the flu the morning of. Entire thing gives me anxiety just thinking about it.
That makes sense. I think you are right unfortunately.
Haha exactly. I dont know how anyone can find it enjoyable.
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I've been to one wedding. Best steak I've ever had, I can taste it now. I was the only one to choose the meat menu, everyone else chose the fish menu, some got sick.
Best part was, when the wedding was over I went home and was still single.
Best part was, when the wedding was over I went home and was still single.
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Using your analogy, it's like winning the Super Bowl. Think about what a Super Bowl victory is for a second. Objectively, it is an entirely meaningless event. It does not make the city where the winning team is based a better place to live or improve the lives of its citizens in any way. It feels good a for a couple of days and then the high is gone. Same thing with marriage.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
meh you could help rein your sister but good luck with that
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Most women are about checking items off the list of things that "You're supposed to do". Societal validation is paramount in the female survival strategy since they depend on society more than men do.
The level of extravagance that some women go to for weddings is a huge red flag tho. spending $5k+ on a ring and then $30k+ on a party are completely unnecessary and if a woman were ever to ask for those things from me, I would kick her to the curb for being wasteful.
The level of extravagance that some women go to for weddings is a huge red flag tho. spending $5k+ on a ring and then $30k+ on a party are completely unnecessary and if a woman were ever to ask for those things from me, I would kick her to the curb for being wasteful.
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