"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Sir"?

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I've been called this before by girls and I'm not sure if its just a trend or a respect thing, or both.

A girl that I hooked up with over the summer left me a message calling me Sir after I complimented her saying she's cute on one of her photos. Then she went on to asking me when we are going to get together again.

Then later this week a girl that is friends with these girls across the hall who I barely know called me Sir - just a way to say hello.

I'm probably ALREADY looking too deep into this so its probably nothing but is there more to this than meets the eye?

Honestly I dont really care but I like being amused by everyone answers.
 

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women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
 

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Metaphysical said:
women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
I agree with metaphysical...

maybe reply to that by calling her "m'am" (in a playful way) :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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It just means you've got "Sir" vibes.

Personally I don't wnna be called sir, I'd rather be called "Baby" or "Oh my god"

Its the ones who wanna do freaky **** to me, not those who need to establish who is higher status. That **** only matters if status is an issue to you in the first place - which it is if you're lower status by self-assumption.
 

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ahhh yes.
All the stuff makes sense to me.

I often think of myself as more mature than most guys my age. I'm like a 26 year old stuck in a 21 year olds body. And I think women see that to some level, with my physical appearance and the way I tend to act.
Not to say that there aren't time where I act my age of course, but most of the time I'm ahead of myself because of my busy lifestyle.

Now all I have to do is get one of them to call me "Sir" in the bedroom.:cool:
 

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This happens to me too. I guess we're just giving out "sir" vibes.

I don't know, it is often good because it shows you have natural command, but I've also seen it used by girls to guys that they think take themselves too seriously. Or it can be used as a way of distancing themselves from you. It could also be flirting. It depends on the tone and context. I think it might also be a pop culture fad recently. I don't know.

Now, when I was called the "gentleman in the back" (I'm 18), I was really thrown for a loop and realized I had to be more playful/flirty. When a girl says "gentleman" in this day and age, she's probably not interested...
 

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ahhh yes gentlemen. I dont get gentleman that often. I dont remember the last time that was said.

When I was called sir by the girl who I had only spoken to a couple of times, I treated as a friendly hello. So I replied "hey, how are you?" in my soft tone of voice, showing that I'm not completely serious but I enjoy life. I think it was a good response on my end.

I think I'm being admired from a far even though I'm not really interested. Its nice to know they are interested in you in some subtle form.

Also the whole Sir thing might have originated from a MTV cartoon show called Daria... I dont know thats just a guess or maybe it was just as "popular" when I was in my early teens.

Thanks for the responses. Keep giving out good vibes. More responses welcome.
 
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