"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"Sir"?

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I've been called this before by girls and I'm not sure if its just a trend or a respect thing, or both.

A girl that I hooked up with over the summer left me a message calling me Sir after I complimented her saying she's cute on one of her photos. Then she went on to asking me when we are going to get together again.

Then later this week a girl that is friends with these girls across the hall who I barely know called me Sir - just a way to say hello.

I'm probably ALREADY looking too deep into this so its probably nothing but is there more to this than meets the eye?

Honestly I dont really care but I like being amused by everyone answers.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Metaphysical

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women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
 

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Metaphysical said:
women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
I agree with metaphysical...

maybe reply to that by calling her "m'am" (in a playful way) :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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It just means you've got "Sir" vibes.

Personally I don't wnna be called sir, I'd rather be called "Baby" or "Oh my god"

Its the ones who wanna do freaky **** to me, not those who need to establish who is higher status. That **** only matters if status is an issue to you in the first place - which it is if you're lower status by self-assumption.
 

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ahhh yes.
All the stuff makes sense to me.

I often think of myself as more mature than most guys my age. I'm like a 26 year old stuck in a 21 year olds body. And I think women see that to some level, with my physical appearance and the way I tend to act.
Not to say that there aren't time where I act my age of course, but most of the time I'm ahead of myself because of my busy lifestyle.

Now all I have to do is get one of them to call me "Sir" in the bedroom.:cool:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This happens to me too. I guess we're just giving out "sir" vibes.

I don't know, it is often good because it shows you have natural command, but I've also seen it used by girls to guys that they think take themselves too seriously. Or it can be used as a way of distancing themselves from you. It could also be flirting. It depends on the tone and context. I think it might also be a pop culture fad recently. I don't know.

Now, when I was called the "gentleman in the back" (I'm 18), I was really thrown for a loop and realized I had to be more playful/flirty. When a girl says "gentleman" in this day and age, she's probably not interested...
 

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ahhh yes gentlemen. I dont get gentleman that often. I dont remember the last time that was said.

When I was called sir by the girl who I had only spoken to a couple of times, I treated as a friendly hello. So I replied "hey, how are you?" in my soft tone of voice, showing that I'm not completely serious but I enjoy life. I think it was a good response on my end.

I think I'm being admired from a far even though I'm not really interested. Its nice to know they are interested in you in some subtle form.

Also the whole Sir thing might have originated from a MTV cartoon show called Daria... I dont know thats just a guess or maybe it was just as "popular" when I was in my early teens.

Thanks for the responses. Keep giving out good vibes. More responses welcome.
 
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