"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"Sir"?

Fleshy99

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I've been called this before by girls and I'm not sure if its just a trend or a respect thing, or both.

A girl that I hooked up with over the summer left me a message calling me Sir after I complimented her saying she's cute on one of her photos. Then she went on to asking me when we are going to get together again.

Then later this week a girl that is friends with these girls across the hall who I barely know called me Sir - just a way to say hello.

I'm probably ALREADY looking too deep into this so its probably nothing but is there more to this than meets the eye?

Honestly I dont really care but I like being amused by everyone answers.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Metaphysical

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women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
 

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Metaphysical said:
women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
I agree with metaphysical...

maybe reply to that by calling her "m'am" (in a playful way) :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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It just means you've got "Sir" vibes.

Personally I don't wnna be called sir, I'd rather be called "Baby" or "Oh my god"

Its the ones who wanna do freaky **** to me, not those who need to establish who is higher status. That **** only matters if status is an issue to you in the first place - which it is if you're lower status by self-assumption.
 

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ahhh yes.
All the stuff makes sense to me.

I often think of myself as more mature than most guys my age. I'm like a 26 year old stuck in a 21 year olds body. And I think women see that to some level, with my physical appearance and the way I tend to act.
Not to say that there aren't time where I act my age of course, but most of the time I'm ahead of myself because of my busy lifestyle.

Now all I have to do is get one of them to call me "Sir" in the bedroom.:cool:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This happens to me too. I guess we're just giving out "sir" vibes.

I don't know, it is often good because it shows you have natural command, but I've also seen it used by girls to guys that they think take themselves too seriously. Or it can be used as a way of distancing themselves from you. It could also be flirting. It depends on the tone and context. I think it might also be a pop culture fad recently. I don't know.

Now, when I was called the "gentleman in the back" (I'm 18), I was really thrown for a loop and realized I had to be more playful/flirty. When a girl says "gentleman" in this day and age, she's probably not interested...
 

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ahhh yes gentlemen. I dont get gentleman that often. I dont remember the last time that was said.

When I was called sir by the girl who I had only spoken to a couple of times, I treated as a friendly hello. So I replied "hey, how are you?" in my soft tone of voice, showing that I'm not completely serious but I enjoy life. I think it was a good response on my end.

I think I'm being admired from a far even though I'm not really interested. Its nice to know they are interested in you in some subtle form.

Also the whole Sir thing might have originated from a MTV cartoon show called Daria... I dont know thats just a guess or maybe it was just as "popular" when I was in my early teens.

Thanks for the responses. Keep giving out good vibes. More responses welcome.
 
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