"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Sir"?

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I've been called this before by girls and I'm not sure if its just a trend or a respect thing, or both.

A girl that I hooked up with over the summer left me a message calling me Sir after I complimented her saying she's cute on one of her photos. Then she went on to asking me when we are going to get together again.

Then later this week a girl that is friends with these girls across the hall who I barely know called me Sir - just a way to say hello.

I'm probably ALREADY looking too deep into this so its probably nothing but is there more to this than meets the eye?

Honestly I dont really care but I like being amused by everyone answers.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Metaphysical

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women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
 

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Metaphysical said:
women that call guys "SIR" understand what men want.

us men, we crave power. we crave feeling like we're on top of the world ruling it.

so she knows it will make us feel good about ourselves when she calls us "SIR"

shes pretty much being flirty and trying to get under your skin
I agree with metaphysical...

maybe reply to that by calling her "m'am" (in a playful way) :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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It just means you've got "Sir" vibes.

Personally I don't wnna be called sir, I'd rather be called "Baby" or "Oh my god"

Its the ones who wanna do freaky **** to me, not those who need to establish who is higher status. That **** only matters if status is an issue to you in the first place - which it is if you're lower status by self-assumption.
 

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ahhh yes.
All the stuff makes sense to me.

I often think of myself as more mature than most guys my age. I'm like a 26 year old stuck in a 21 year olds body. And I think women see that to some level, with my physical appearance and the way I tend to act.
Not to say that there aren't time where I act my age of course, but most of the time I'm ahead of myself because of my busy lifestyle.

Now all I have to do is get one of them to call me "Sir" in the bedroom.:cool:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This happens to me too. I guess we're just giving out "sir" vibes.

I don't know, it is often good because it shows you have natural command, but I've also seen it used by girls to guys that they think take themselves too seriously. Or it can be used as a way of distancing themselves from you. It could also be flirting. It depends on the tone and context. I think it might also be a pop culture fad recently. I don't know.

Now, when I was called the "gentleman in the back" (I'm 18), I was really thrown for a loop and realized I had to be more playful/flirty. When a girl says "gentleman" in this day and age, she's probably not interested...
 

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ahhh yes gentlemen. I dont get gentleman that often. I dont remember the last time that was said.

When I was called sir by the girl who I had only spoken to a couple of times, I treated as a friendly hello. So I replied "hey, how are you?" in my soft tone of voice, showing that I'm not completely serious but I enjoy life. I think it was a good response on my end.

I think I'm being admired from a far even though I'm not really interested. Its nice to know they are interested in you in some subtle form.

Also the whole Sir thing might have originated from a MTV cartoon show called Daria... I dont know thats just a guess or maybe it was just as "popular" when I was in my early teens.

Thanks for the responses. Keep giving out good vibes. More responses welcome.
 
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