Sir Lancelot's DJ Bootcamp

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 2, Day 3:

Today was kind of a long day, but worthwhile. The first conversation I had was with these banging chicks, I made eye contact with them in a parking lot (I was with my friends) and they rolled up and parked next to us. I smiled at them and they rolled down their window and one of them said what's up. We were just hanging out by my buddies car so I just fluffed them a little bit, asked them questions like What school do you guys go to, and what're you up to tonight. They were meeting someone else and he rolled up while I was talking to them, but the convo lasted a little over two minutes.

The next convo I had was over the phone. I've put an ad for guitar lessons in the paper, so this guy called me up and he was interested. I talked to him for over 5 minutes about music in general, and about work (he works 12 hour days five days a week, holy crap). Even though it was kind of "business" related and not a conversation in person I'm still going to count it. Reason being, I put that ad in the paper because of the confidence boost I've had from bootcamp. I've always wanted to give guitar lessons, but I was nervous of meeting new people and teaching them.

Got several Hi's too, it's second nature for me now. Hell, it's almost mechanical, yet human at the same time =). I make eye contact, put on a friendly smile, then say Hi.

I'm going to kick it up a notch tomorrow, and see if I can pull in 5 conversations!

Conversation count: 5

 

[FOL!!!]

Originally posted by Sir Lancelot
I'm going to kick it up a notch tomorrow, and see if I can pull in 5 conversations!

No no...you bastard...you just want to have more convo's on a day than me...I go for six! lol Good luck man It's pretty neat seeing this bootcamp paying of after a week already....

Tonight I'm going to talk to a girl and "ask" her out...Only talked like 4 times to her...not really a stranger I guess, but certainly a big step to take...

 

[FOL!!!]

Week 2, day 2:

I talked to 5 strangers...

The first was a guy who was helping in our house (my mother had an operation blabla) and he was helping with some sh1t like cleaning. I never had a problem talking to that kind of people, it's just fluff talk about school, and where he lives and so on.

The second, third and fourth I saw sitting in some kind of park/soccer field whatever you wanna call it. They were around the age of 35-45 and I asked them if they were having fun walking with the dogs, what kind of dogs it were etc. After a min, I just sat down together with them. After I guess 10 minutes I told them I would move on, which is what I did.... My first group approach.

Last one isn't really a stranger, though she was way the hardest of them all. And guess what...I got frikking nervous! Poor eye-contact, bad questions, like I was doing a GESTAPO-question-round...sjeez, I could slap myself. Only positive thing is that at the end, we had like a 5 second long eye-contact, which did me some good. she goes back to school the 28th. She is going to be an actrice or something. She went to Greece on her vacation and hated to get back...and I pvssied a bit out. Didn't ask where in greece, and what kind of vacation and man, I don't even know her name. Next time I'll try to say something like "hey upcoming actress, what's your name...then I know what name look for, when looking at the end of a movie next time"..... So did I fail? Well, I did fail to get my goal in 1 approach since I started to read the bible and do bootcamp. But I was less nervous today, and I've approached her once more...which is good as well I guess, even if it doesn't become anything.

So if I count the -not-really-stranger and the group as individuals, I would count 5 today, which makes 9 strangers in 2 days...not bad.

 

[Hit]

Originally posted by FOL!!!
Week 2, day 2:

I talked to 5 strangers...

The first was a guy who was helping in our house (my mother had an operation blabla) and he was helping with some sh1t like cleaning. I never had a problem talking to that kind of people, it's just fluff talk about school, and where he lives and so on.

The second, third and fourth I saw sitting in some kind of park/soccer field whatever you wanna call it. They were around the age of 35-45 and I asked them if they were having fun walking with the dogs, what kind of dogs it were etc. After a min, I just sat down together with them. After I guess 10 minutes I told them I would move on, which is what I did.... My first group approach.

Last one isn't really a stranger, though she was way the hardest of them all. And guess what...I got frikking nervous! Poor eye-contact, bad questions, like I was doing a GESTAPO-question-round...sjeez, I could slap myself. Only positive thing is that at the end, we had like a 5 second long eye-contact, which did me some good. she goes back to school the 28th. She is going to be an actrice or something. She went to Greece on her vacation and hated to get back...and I pvssied a bit out. Didn't ask where in greece, and what kind of vacation and man, I don't even know her name. Next time I'll try to say something like "hey upcoming actress, what's your name...then I know what name look for, when looking at the end of a movie next time"..... So did I fail? Well, I did fail to get my goal in 1 approach since I started to read the bible and do bootcamp. But I was less nervous today, and I've approached her once more...which is good as well I guess, even if it doesn't become anything.

So if I count the -not-really-stranger and the group as individuals, I would count 5 today, which makes 9 strangers in 2 days...not bad.

keep at it man, you'll get there.

As far as myself, yes.. I have been slacking off unforuntently (due to circumstance). Incredibly busy at work, so my only time to socialize with others (new people) is either while picking up food or in the elevators of the building. And i have been making a notable improvement over my previous habits; ie. where as before i would simply go about my business, it seems like i more naturally enter into conversations (something which i noticed is often brought upon by an established eye contact). I've been making a habit of at the very least establishing eye contact (or at least attempting pending the other parties reaction) with all HBs walking past me.

So.. i'm definetly getting there, but i could also pick up some slack on my behalf.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 2, Day 4:

Today was a good day. I didn't get the 5 conversations I was hoping for, but I did well. I got 3 conversations. Many Hi's, more than I can count.

First conversation was with some guy working at Safeway. he came outside because he was on his break and I said "Kinda hot out isn't it?" because it was like 90 here, which is crazy for Washington state. We went on and talked about how toasty it's been for the past week and how he went on a vacation to california for a little bit.

The second one was on the phone -- I got another call for guitar lessons. This time it was a woman, I talked to her for like 5 minutes. She's older, I'm giving lessons to her kids who are 7 and 9 years old. Haven't met her in person yet though, maybe she's a milf =). She said she was divorced...

The third one was an HB7 up on a mountain where my friends were camping. She stepped out of this van and a bunch of smoke came out from inside (heh, guess what they were doing?) so I smiled at her and made eye contact, which she returned and I was like "You havin' fun?" She was like "Oh yeah, hehe" and I said "I bet you are haha". She asked me if I smoke, to which I replied that I used to, but quit for some time now (which is the truth ). We talked a little bit more about ganj and then about the great view the mountain has.

woo, I have only two conversations left, and three more days to do them. I'll try to be an over achiever though, and get more than I need. That'll help the confidence for next week...

Good luck DJ's, and don't bail out on me. Being busy can get you down but you can always take an hour or so out of your day to go out and try to make some conversation or get more hi's. Every little thing counts .. Next week is conversations w/ HBs which is where the *real* fun begins!

Conversation count: 8

 

[FOL!!!]

oh yeah, 10 conversation instead of 10 people you conversate with lol...so I'm down to 7 then.

Today:
Conversation with 2 kiddo's, and they wanted to see magic tricks (man, they ended up with inviting me to perform on their party lol...)
I called the dentist (a new one), which was a conversation. But I really hate to count these, as I need to approach people for "no obvious reason", that's my issue...oh well.
And a HB7.5 girl at the store where I bought some clothes. I have to get back for some jeans next week...Practise talking to HB chicks then eh? Anyway, 2 people there, 1 conversation. This all makes a score of 3 unknown people, which takes me to 10 exactly now. After 3 days, hey I'm happy so far, but I need to practise ALOT on non-HB girls.

I felt pretty comfortable talking to the HB7.5 girl today, I dunno why...Probably because we had a topic in common (clothes), instead of a talk, because I'm interested in her. Oh well, I'll try to keep up. Just like ya'll should. Good luck Lancelot and Hit

Week 2 day 3: 10 conversations in total.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Originally posted by FOL!!!
oh yeah, 10 conversation instead of 10 people you conversate with lol...so I'm down to 7 then.

Today:
Conversation with 2 kiddo's, and they wanted to see magic tricks (man, they ended up with inviting me to perform on their party lol...)
I called the dentist (a new one), which was a conversation. But I really hate to count these, as I need to approach people for "no obvious reason", that's my issue...oh well.
And a HB7.5 girl at the store where I bought some clothes. I have to get back for some jeans next week...Practise talking to HB chicks then eh? Anyway, 2 people there, 1 conversation. This all makes a score of 3 unknown people, which takes me to 10 exactly now. After 3 days, hey I'm happy so far, but I need to practise ALOT on non-HB girls.

I felt pretty comfortable talking to the HB7.5 girl today, I dunno why...Probably because we had a topic in common (clothes), instead of a talk, because I'm interested in her. Oh well, I'll try to keep up. Just like ya'll should. Good luck Lancelot and Hit

Week 2 day 3: 10 conversations in total.

Good job FOL, you're doing well! Wierd that you have a problem talking to non-HB girls. I find their the easiest for me to start a conversation with. Probably because I'm not attracted to them, and I wouldn't give two sh*ts if they totally blew me off and walked away mid-conversation .

I'll give my report for day 5 later, I haven't been able to get out of the house yet. Waiting for laundry to finish...

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 2, Day 5:

One conversation today. I was standing in a tobacco shop (yes I know, bad habit I've been meaning to quit) and this guy walks in wearing practically nothing. I had to hold myself from not laughing in the store. I was like, "Kinda hot out there isn't it?" in a joking tone, and he was like "Yeah, I just got back from the river." I guess he lost his clothes and wallet in the river. We talked a little more about nothing pretty much, and I was holding in trying not to laugh the hold time. I'm sure he could tell I was about to crack up lol.

Conversation count: 9

 

[FOL!!!]

lol What the hell did he wear? Only his pink String?

Anyway, you are right about the non-afc gals...Stupid me... Oh well, I'll just try it on them as well..I know what I do wrong (read below), but I'll succeed. Maybe I need a bit more time for week 2 (on the other hand, I had 10 conversation already, but I need to practie cold approaches more). So, are you feeling 'more social' already?

Today I did my last AFC-move. I went up to the supermarketchick...I damn spoiled it, but at the end, I found it pretty funny myself.

It was 5 am before I got to bed, after a good friday night with friends. Damn, we had a talk about women, which was really cool you know. A friend stimulated me to fvcking ask her out today.
So I got out of bed 11 am...which is 6 hours sleep, after a drinking night, and I had a hard time not to fall asleep in the car. Had to get back in the house because I forgot the car keys, and when I was at the store, I had to drive back because I forgot a bag to put the groceries in.... So yeah I was pretty tired.

Anyway, I saw her behind her counter, I knew "I gotta fvcking do it!"...So I took my groceries went to her counter and I already thought too much yesterday, thinking stuff like:
what am I going to say?
Oh yeah "hi, what's your name?" (because I talked to her a fair amount of times, but I didn't know her name).

But just before I had to pay, some idiot (old guy) said "hey <name> still working here" (or something similar)....so that fvcking ruined my whole frikking conversation haha...Then I thought...'wait a minute, I can just pretend if I didn't hear it'. Then the thoughts came and went and it was my turn...oh no!
So I said "soo...your name is <name> right?" and she was nodding...and I was such a stupid idiot...I asked her:
"so <pause> you wanna go have a drink <pause...nervous nervous!> in town or in the big city?"... And then I thought...WHAT THE F*ck did I just ask?!...she doesn't even know my name haaaaaaaahaaa I felt so stupid, and I found it so frikking funny at that time... She said something like "naw, I'm too busy and blablabla <I don't want to>". And I told her 'allright, too bad' and went away.

So:
- I messed up AFC wise really bad
- I'm still too frikking nervous!
- I gotta be less unprepared, stop thinking so much, stop trying to figure out all possible outcomes of a conversation. Because it makes me nervous if I think of the whole conversation already, I ain't listening enough then, I'm not having fun, etc etc...
- Good thiong, big win: I DID IT....even though I messed up reeeaaaalllllyyyy bad. I did it!


Practise for this week (2-10 minute conversation with strangers)... Just let the conversation go with the flow more... Don't be prepared!

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Yeah I'm feeling much more social. The guy in the tobacco shop was wearing a speedo, and nothing else lmao.

Hey man, you should be proud. You approached her and asked her out. Even though it didn't work out like you wanted it to, you still did it. Most guys wouldn't even get that far. Remember, there's always gonna be other fish in the sea. So if you get shot down by one, the next may be head over heels for ya...

 

[FOL!!!]

True true and I realize that...but it took too long (like 2 months (of which she had a 3 week vacation)..so like 5 weeks). Got a bit too attached/too much (AFC) hope. But hey, I now joined bootcamp here and studying about how to do it right, and I got my first rejection of week 4 already!

Week 2, day 4...no strangers...that keeps me on 10

By the way, when reading the forums a bit I saw this tip from a previous bootcamp topic and it might be useful:

With everyone you see, try to think of a first good line you would say to them (even if you ain't going to talk to them). I gotta practise more in bookstores and such, where I can come up with a topic. So far it's been a topicless approach, which is way more diffcult (for me).

3 days to go, but I feel I need lots lots lots more practise on this. I'm not sure if I can keep up with the tempo. (I know I should..Just talk the **** away, 3 more days, I'm certainly gonna try!)

Oh yeah, I gutted out once today.... I saw two girls (few years younger than me) walking up to me with their dogs...and the dogs were coming to me, and I was handling them...but I didn't even say hi...just smiled lol...stupid me. I didn't even think about it. So instead of saying something naturally, I was afc-like, saying nothing naturally.... Too bad, more practise

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 2, Day 6:

Got the last conversation .. with a wedding planner lol. I'm kind of proud of this one. I was walking up to the docks in our city since it has a great view, just scoping out some people to talk to. Turns out some people rented the whole place out for a wedding, and I wasn't allowed back there. This hot HB8.5 was standing at the inlet that leads into the docks. I made eye contact with her and said Hey, what's going on here? She said there's a wedding. So I say, "Oh cool!" and try to walk through lol. She stops me with her arm and says "Uhm, no. This is a PRIVATE wedding." So I'm like .. "Really? Woops. Are you the bouncer or something?" She laughed and was like "haha very funny." I just proceeded to ask her about what she does here, and she told me she was the wedding planner. I asked about the bride and groom, and just fluffed for a minute or two about nothing. Then she got pulled away by someone else who needed help at the otherside of the building.

That's ten conversations right there, but I'm gonna try to get some more tomorrow, just for practice.

 

[FOL!!!]

Nice, that's week 3 material

Week 2, day 5: None!
2 days of frikking lazyness (and alot of rain)...There is no one to blame, except me. Tomorrow I need at least 3 a 4 people to get back in the game!

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 2, Day 7:

One more conversation, with a female store clerk. She was probably an HB5 at best, not very attractive to me. I asked her how she was holding up (it was a busy day in the store) and she really opened up.

That's my bonus conversation for this week =)

FOL, looks like its me and you for week 3. Seems like Hit's been busy lately and has fallen behind. I'm going to read up on week 3 tonight, and I'll be ready for action tomorrow.

 

[Hit]

Originally posted by Sir Lancelot
Week 2, Day 7:

One more conversation, with a female store clerk. She was probably an HB5 at best, not very attractive to me. I asked her how she was holding up (it was a busy day in the store) and she really opened up.

That's my bonus conversation for this week =)

FOL, looks like its me and you for week 3. Seems like Hit's been busy lately and has fallen behind. I'm going to read up on week 3 tonight, and I'll be ready for action tomorrow.

yep: indeed i have been too tied up, unfortunetly.

The weekend was pretty depressing - too much sh*t going wrong and nothing going right, still tryin to keep my head up though

as far as bootcamp; i do feel like i was thrown off a bit due to curcumstances most likely out of my control, but I'm still keeping at it. Even in a pissed off or sh*tty mood I try to actively keep in mind and following thru with the principles from week 1 and 2. And even though i probably already did the required 10 conversations, I'm still intending on continuing proceeding through as if I was still doing week 1+2 to get better at it and make it more of a second nature action.

...Off to re-read week3.

*edit*

just read week 3, from this point on i'll make it a habbit to post an update each and every night wth a report no matter how tied up I may be. Time to stop ****ing around and start getting results :woo:

 

[FOL!!!]

Yeah Hit, come on, do it...you have to keep up with us, no bull ****.

Well, today I ****ed up as well, due to lazyiness...well I didn't really screw up, I mean, I talked to 2 strangers. Both were in my house! One woman was helping with something for my mom and I only greeted her and said my name. When I walked downstairs, there was some chick cleaning the house (helping)... So I introduced myself to her as well. I wasn't really into it you know, I had a really rough week-end with loads of drinking and it was early this morning (hah see the excuses coming!), but she started asking some questions, and later I was asking her some questions. And I felt really comfortable... Why is that? WHY THE HELL DID I FEEL COMFORTABLE?! And why ain't I feeling comfortable on the streets....Probably because it was at my home, I didn't care so much about possible silences and my mom was chatting up with us a bit as well. Anyway, when the girl left she said "see you around at the train station" (there is where I saw her before as well, I was doubting if it was really her).

Funny thing is, when I got back from town at 5 pm (I wanted to talk to strangers, but I didn't find a suitable approach and I was tired blabla read: I'm a stupid dumb**** and should keep it going!)....Anyway when I was riding back to my house on my bicycle, I saw her for the first time ever away from the train station (or this morning my house)....what a coincidence ;p She was greeting me with great enthusiasm, that was nice

So tomorrow it's gonna be good weather, I'm doubting what I will do, but I have to keep it going. Not going to read yet tomorrow. Anyway one to add to my arsenal.

Week 2 day 6, total conversations: 11

 

[Hit]

week 3: day 1

a mediocre day.. getting my mood up a little bit after a ruff last week, and trying to get the AFC out of me. By the very nature of my work, I'm on the phone a lot, and I do get a lot of practice talking to the secretaries and such, so.. i'm obviously not going to count those as conversations or anything significant at all, but it does help me improve i suppose...

had a night class after school, during the break went to starbucks to get some coffee to keep me awake, and the 3 second rule which I read about last night reinterated itself into my head.. don't wait more then 3 seconds to approach or start a conversation because your nerves will prevent you from doing so.. the HB7 cashier was someone I should have started a conversation with based on my task at hand, but unfortunetly i just paid for my drink, exchanged brief eye contact and a few brief words and that's it.. definetly unacceptable, definetly something that I should not allow to happen again.

Later on, before leaving (and this is a pretty small class.. only a dozen or so people due to it being a summer night course) i asked a mediocre looking hoe who sits next to me for her phone number so I could check up on the answers for the take home midterm.. she seemed uneasy about it, and i'm pretty sure she gave me the wrong number, but funny enough it actually gave me a boost.. the dumb **** though i was trying to pick her up or something?? I most definetly intend on having a good time putting her in her place the next time i see her, which shoud be this wednesday. I intend on thourougly enjoying at the very least embarasing her and putting her down verbally.

But, yeah.. trying to rebound from a hard time i've been having and keeping my head up. About to head to the gym right now actually, so.. self improvement is a thing consistantly on my mind. The AFC in me has to go.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Cool Hit, glad to see your back in the game.

Week 3, Day 1:

I was a freakin' slacker today. I mean, I did go out and get some conversations, but not with hot women. I talked to some bum while walking thru the park lol. He was kind of a jerk though. I was talking to him for a little bit, and to be honest I couldn't understand a word he was saying. He was a mumbler.

I choked on talking to this one HB8 though. Though I was kind of turned off from wanting to talk to her because she was walking her baby in a stroller. But that's a really lame excuse .. I mean I wouldn't be going for her number, it'd just be friendly conversation.

I'm still doing Hi's naturally though .. I probably got around 10 today. My confidence has been through the roof these past weeks, I find myself taking more social risks (like hollering at HBs across a parking lot ).

HB conversations: 0

 

[nougat]

Damn is it too late to sign up, shall I create a new topic. I don't get anywhere unless I dedicate myself to it by posting.

 

[FOL!!!]

Week 2 day 7: Spoken to 3 strangers, but I only had a 2+ minute conversation with one of them. Ehm... Yeah, the mother of a friend of a friend of mine lol
So 12 as a total for week 2. Today should be the start of week 3... But god damn, I lost my driver license and the ownership papers of my motorcycle yesterday on the highway (I dunno where, I noticed it when I got back home) so I had to arrange much today (like going to the police)... so I didn't really had much chance to meet HB's...but I talked to strangers again, so it keeps me going.

Anyway...not sure if I should call this day 1, I guess I don't

So tomorrow week 3 will start for me.

Nougat: Maybe you should make a post about starting a bootcamp first, to gather some extra people