Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i have more of a life than she does...marinetti said:she potentially has a life outside of you. perhaps you should work on being more fun when you hang out with her. then she'll want to hang out with you. it's possible she's getting bored with hanging out.
what do you guys do when you're together?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
QFTDavenJuan said:1. never go out with you
2. blows you off
3. guy friends
4. lots of text messages
5. she doesnt trust you
6.not getting along w/ each other
7 condomn in the trash can and you two dont use them
8. female friends telephone numbers in her phone you never heard of ( actually disquised numbers)
..bottom line is, most of the time, we already know when she is or isnt. We just subconcously choose to ignore the facts that lay right in front of our eyes. ..when we start asking this question, its pretty much already happened
Oh please. A real cheater got game. She will actually conceal or do the opposite of all those things. Last thing she wants to do is raise suspicion about her covert activities when you aren't there.DavenJuan said:1. never go out with you
2. blows you off
3. guy friends
4. lots of text messages
5. she doesnt trust you
6.not getting along w/ each other
7 condomn in the trash can and you two dont use them
8. female friends telephone numbers in her phone you never heard of ( actually disquised numbers)
that tells me nothing really. do you guys have fun when you go out?inzone50 said:i have more of a life than she does...
she is the afc in our relationship.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Cheaters still have general signs. if she has something to loss and hides what she does from you then she will get a little tense if she thinks you're coming on to her.wayword said:Oh please. A real cheater got game. She will actually conceal or do the opposite of all those things. Last thing she wants to do is raise suspicion about her covert activities when you aren't there.
I would actually get more suspicious if she goes out on "Girls' Nights Out" or acts a little extra-nice to you out of the blue. Also, excessive internet use...since it's easy to hide emails, but not phone records.
You took the words right out of my mouth....er...keyboard. :crackup:Jukeboxhero said:Well, I would say that if she sings that she's cheating, it could be a possibilty.
Does she normally sing about stuff like that? Does she mention you in the song?
The most obvious s when ten dudes are lined up outside her bedroom with their pants down!inzone50 said:What are signs she is cheating?