"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sings she is cheating?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DavenJuan

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1. never go out with you
2. blows you off
3. guy friends
4. lots of text messages
5. she doesnt trust you
6.not getting along w/ each other
7 condomn in the trash can and you two dont use them
8. female friends telephone numbers in her phone you never heard of ( actually disquised numbers)

..bottom line is, most of the time, we already know when she is or isnt. We just subconcously choose to ignore the facts that lay right in front of our eyes. ..when we start asking this question, its pretty much already happened
 

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hmmm if we agree the day before to hang out around 5 and she texts you on the day you are supposed to hang out at 1 asking if you want to hang out tonite at 6?

or its a Friday and she is done class at 1pm and she asks if you want to hang out much later in the day like 7?

or we supposed to hang out 3 and she forgets she had afternoon class that day so she can only hang out after 5?
 

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she potentially has a life outside of you. perhaps you should work on being more fun when you hang out with her. then she'll want to hang out with you. it's possible she's getting bored with hanging out.

what do you guys do when you're together?
 

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marinetti said:
she potentially has a life outside of you. perhaps you should work on being more fun when you hang out with her. then she'll want to hang out with you. it's possible she's getting bored with hanging out.

what do you guys do when you're together?
i have more of a life than she does...

she is the afc in our relationship.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DavenJuan said:
1. never go out with you
2. blows you off
3. guy friends
4. lots of text messages
5. she doesnt trust you
6.not getting along w/ each other
7 condomn in the trash can and you two dont use them
8. female friends telephone numbers in her phone you never heard of ( actually disquised numbers)

..bottom line is, most of the time, we already know when she is or isnt. We just subconcously choose to ignore the facts that lay right in front of our eyes. ..when we start asking this question, its pretty much already happened
QFT

also if she starts insisting on going out alone.
or has a new friend whom she wont let you meet.
starts screening her calls around you.
whispers on the phone when you're around


also, make sure the signs are legit. and that you actually have a reason to suspect her outside of your own insecurity.

insecurity has been known to produce fake signs when she really isnt doing anything.

just keep that in mind.
 

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DavenJuan said:
1. never go out with you
2. blows you off
3. guy friends
4. lots of text messages
5. she doesnt trust you
6.not getting along w/ each other
7 condomn in the trash can and you two dont use them
8. female friends telephone numbers in her phone you never heard of ( actually disquised numbers)
Oh please. A real cheater got game. She will actually conceal or do the opposite of all those things. Last thing she wants to do is raise suspicion about her covert activities when you aren't there.

I would actually get more suspcicious if she goes out on "Girls' Nights Out" or acts a little extra-nice to you out of the blue. Also, excessive internet use...since it's easy to hide emails, but not phone records.
 

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inzone50 said:
i have more of a life than she does...

she is the afc in our relationship.
that tells me nothing really. do you guys have fun when you go out?

relationships, in my mind, are seducing the same person over and over again. if you're still handling the relationship the same now as you did when it started, it's possibly getting boring for the both of you. even if she is an afc, she's going to need some excitement in her life. i don't think this flaking is a sign of cheating, but i think it's a sign that something isn't right in the relationship.

try honest talk, but not a serious heavy one. for example, take her to a new restaurant or a cool bar, enjoy the evening, and at some point say "hey, is everything okay? because i feel like something's not quite right between us."

something like that.
 

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Well, I would say that if she sings that she's cheating, it could be a possibilty.

Does she normally sing about stuff like that? Does she mention you in the song?
 

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Other signs to look out for are behaviour change.

It can either be behaviour change that is bad or better to you than she's ever been.

The most important sign you have to trust though is one that you feel inside that is given to you by your gut instinct.

That inner sense we all have that tells us if something is wrong or something is alright.

Sometimes our logical mind likes to try and override this feeling as silly or it tries to write the feeling off as insecurity.

Basically our logical mind will sabotage our gut instinct feeling that can save us from pain because our logical mind wants to look for verifiable proof of wrongdoing but sometimes wrongdoing if hidden enough can only be felt and that is where your gut instinct comes in.

It gives you a sense of whether a person is lying to you or not or has changed in some way.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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crusty white stains on her face are a good sign. espically around the mouth
 

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wayword said:
Oh please. A real cheater got game. She will actually conceal or do the opposite of all those things. Last thing she wants to do is raise suspicion about her covert activities when you aren't there.

I would actually get more suspicious if she goes out on "Girls' Nights Out" or acts a little extra-nice to you out of the blue. Also, excessive internet use...since it's easy to hide emails, but not phone records.
Cheaters still have general signs. if she has something to loss and hides what she does from you then she will get a little tense if she thinks you're coming on to her.

lying is not easy. you not only have to convince others that what you say is true, but yourself as well.

a person who's good at it will fool you for a while, but they will slip up, and thats when you catch them.
 
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inzone50 said:
What are signs she is cheating?
The most obvious s when ten dudes are lined up outside her bedroom with their pants down!
 
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