"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Single woman publicly shames OLD dating prospect

ThisNThat

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I have to admit, this guy wrote up the most polite
proposition to this woman, as opposed to, "I want to b*ng you*

Hi my name is ... I liked
your profile write-up and
you're quite attractive, too.

I know I'm considerably younger
than yourself, but would you be
up for some casual fun?

I'm sure we can have fun
as long as we respect each other
and honest.
Shall I'll start by taking you out
for drinks?


She posted a screen shot of this dialogue and her
response to him was to basically

"F-off! How dare you be
disrespectful
...where in MY profile did I say I want
"casual fun"?!! Learn to read profiles!!


Believe it or not, some of the friends (not all)
thought there was no harm in his delivery since
it wasn't "Let's bang" and thought it to be so polite
that it was no big deal and faulted her for making a
stink about it, but....she has a routine habit of
posting her dating woes on Facebook...which probably
can get irritating to her friends. lol

Personally,I saw no harm in how he delivered it. But
she's also a bar fly trying to pick up men there, too. So
I don't feel sorry for her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bible_Belt

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He would have done better by just saying hello.

Hi. Cute pic!

is all I use as a first message. They know you want to fvck. You don't have to say so. Doing so keeps her from pretending that you are interested in her personality.
 

MatureDJ

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Is there a link to this somewhere? There is absolutely no context here.
 

Wilko

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He would have done better by just saying hello.

Hi. Cute pic!

is all I use as a first message. They know you want to fvck. You don't have to say so. Doing so keeps her from pretending that you are interested in her personality.
On point BB.

Just like we know they're all interested in our resources and earning potential. But there's nothing more off-putting than a woman who comes at that subject directly.

BTW - you still pulling from FetLife? Is it just something for major metro areas?
 

Bible_Belt

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I'm not in a city, and got decent action off Fetlife, although I did run through everyone locally after a while. I have a new gf now, whom I met on craigslist, so I have not been very active on fetlife.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SadoMasochrist

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I'm not in a city, and got decent action off Fetlife, although I did run through everyone locally after a while. I have a new gf now, whom I met on craigslist, so I have not been very active on fetlife.
What's the fet life game outside of **** shots and munches?
 
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