"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Single woman publicly shames OLD dating prospect

ThisNThat

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I have to admit, this guy wrote up the most polite
proposition to this woman, as opposed to, "I want to b*ng you*

Hi my name is ... I liked
your profile write-up and
you're quite attractive, too.

I know I'm considerably younger
than yourself, but would you be
up for some casual fun?

I'm sure we can have fun
as long as we respect each other
and honest.
Shall I'll start by taking you out
for drinks?


She posted a screen shot of this dialogue and her
response to him was to basically

"F-off! How dare you be
disrespectful
...where in MY profile did I say I want
"casual fun"?!! Learn to read profiles!!


Believe it or not, some of the friends (not all)
thought there was no harm in his delivery since
it wasn't "Let's bang" and thought it to be so polite
that it was no big deal and faulted her for making a
stink about it, but....she has a routine habit of
posting her dating woes on Facebook...which probably
can get irritating to her friends. lol

Personally,I saw no harm in how he delivered it. But
she's also a bar fly trying to pick up men there, too. So
I don't feel sorry for her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bible_Belt

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He would have done better by just saying hello.

Hi. Cute pic!

is all I use as a first message. They know you want to fvck. You don't have to say so. Doing so keeps her from pretending that you are interested in her personality.
 

MatureDJ

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Is there a link to this somewhere? There is absolutely no context here.
 

Wilko

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He would have done better by just saying hello.

Hi. Cute pic!

is all I use as a first message. They know you want to fvck. You don't have to say so. Doing so keeps her from pretending that you are interested in her personality.
On point BB.

Just like we know they're all interested in our resources and earning potential. But there's nothing more off-putting than a woman who comes at that subject directly.

BTW - you still pulling from FetLife? Is it just something for major metro areas?
 

Bible_Belt

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I'm not in a city, and got decent action off Fetlife, although I did run through everyone locally after a while. I have a new gf now, whom I met on craigslist, so I have not been very active on fetlife.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SadoMasochrist

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I'm not in a city, and got decent action off Fetlife, although I did run through everyone locally after a while. I have a new gf now, whom I met on craigslist, so I have not been very active on fetlife.
What's the fet life game outside of **** shots and munches?
 
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