"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Single on valentiens day?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Ahhh the good old days, if only I'd knew better back then.....
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Anyhow, I'm a bit negative about Valentine's Day. Like Christmas I think it is over-commercialized and I'm just bugged by any obligation to get a gift or make a big deal. But I feel this way about most holidays, including my own birthday, so I guess that is just how I am.
I have a girl now whom I'm sure would want to be with me on Valentine's Day, but I don't like her much and don't want to lead her on any more than I already have. At the same time I'm not that motivated to find another girl because of V-Day, because again I think it is bullsh*t. But maybe not being in love makes me unromantic. Or it could be the DJ mindset that makes me unromantic (because I thought of myself as romantic in the AFC days.)
Oh well, screw Valentine's Day.
Which company do you work for?Otherwise... You are correct when saying that u are unromantic because u are not in love.... i use to be like that... i actually never WANTED to ever be in love, eventhough i was always a "romantic" guy when it came to girls, but in a sedusing way that is
But dont worry about your TRUE romantic side coming out one day when u DO fall in love, because when u are in love with a girl, being romantic becomes 1st nature Laterz...
Desdinova
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Those situations are always weird. I was the same way with one chick. I got a call from her "sister" (I don't know how she could've been this girl's sister because she had a british accent). Anyway, I got a message that the chick I was leading on was in the hospital. Personally, I couldn't have cared less if she had died. Reluctantly, I went to the hospital. I showed up empty handed, and spent 1 hour with her. Hell, that was enough for her to continue being led on.
If you want to know what happened in the end, she showed up at my regular hangout with another date to try and make me jealous. I didn't really give a 5hit and just ignored it and had fun. At the end of the night, she approached me in tears. That's when I figured enough is enough. The next day I put an end to it all.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Dodging those Joberg ghettos on the way home are a real laugh.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.